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Of course, this could be a case-by-case thing. But, I recently had a friend that said she was dumped for an ex that came back into her guy's life (an ex-girlfriend).
I don't know, but isn't it pretty crappy to dump someone for an ex that came back into your life or would you say there's something legit about it?
Has this ever happened to you? Does this mean he or she was just settling on you or was holding a torch for an ex?
How far along was this new relationship? I find this more common in new relationships rather than more established ones.
How far along was this new relationship? I find this more common in new relationships rather than more established ones.
Yeah I could see this happening in a newer relationship where they have been dating for a few months. I would find this very rare in someone who has been with someone for years.
No, not at all. A case of jealousy that the other person is moving on. You don't need them to date someone else to realize what you had.
Sometimes I wonder if it's a case of just settling. Like I know people that break up, one of them starts to go back into the dating arena...winds up hating it and realized they made a mistake by breaking up with that person...and gets back together with them.
Sometimes I wonder if it's a case of just settling. Like I know people that break up, one of them starts to go back into the dating arena...winds up hating it and realized they made a mistake by breaking up with that person...and gets back together with them.
Could be a lot of reasons and a combination of reasons. I just know that when a recent ex finds out the other person is dating someone else, they get jealous and want to get back together a lot of times. I've been on both sides of that.
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Of course, this could be a case-by-case thing. But, I recently had a friend that said she was dumped for an ex that came back into her guy's life (an ex-girlfriend).
I don't know, but isn't it pretty crappy to dump someone for an ex that came back into your life or would you say there's something legit about it?
Has this ever happened to you? Does this mean he or she was just settling on you or was holding a torch for an ex?
How could you not think this is “legit”? I’d want to know if my Man had feelings for His ex......I’d be gone before he left......but an ex still having feelings for him?
It’s more damage IMO if he has feelings for an ex.....but stays......
I got back together with an ex in a similar situation. I thought that relationship was over because of insoluble circumstances, so I started dating others. After a few months, however, those circumstances resolved, and she returned. She was a better match for me than the person I'd recently been dating, so it was an easy decision to take her back. That was 20 years ago. It was - and is - the right decision for me.
The reason "why" someone gets dumped usually doesn't matter, it probably hurts them no matter what. Do you think the person should be "prevented" from breaking up with someone to see an ex?
The reason "why" someone gets dumped usually doesn't matter, it probably hurts them no matter what. Do you think the person should be "prevented" from breaking up with someone to see an ex?
I, personally, could not care less why I am dumped. There are some good points you bring up, or I kind of feel, from your post. One, there is a pervasive attitude of once having a relationship, there is value in keeping that relationship come hell or high water. Things like managing who ones partner talks to and the like is pretty pervasive, if not on this board, on another I used to participate in. But also, the why of a breakup is often seen as a rejection or a condemnation to be avoided. I don't see it that way. I will take feedback about the why. And determine if it is something about myself I don't like. Or, decide that it just renders us incompatible.
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