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Yea wondering why he messaged and if I should respond to his last message of “okay ;-(“. Yea it seems he just wants something casual. Which I am okay with that but I don’t want to be his backup choice on his terms.
Not a serious relationship but I would want someone that could at least pick a night to hang instead of keeping me waiting around for. It just felt like he wasn’t really interested until he had nothing better to do. I didn’t like that feeling.
Sounds like you have different definitions of "casual."
Don't you think you'd be hanging around HOPING he would want to progress from casual to official? And how disappointed would you be if he had to cancel your "regular day"?
Honestly, if you can't talk to him about something like this, you shouldn't be sleeping with him.
Sounds like you have different definitions of "casual."
Don't you think you'd be hanging around HOPING he would want to progress from casual to official? And how disappointed would you be if he had to cancel your "regular day"?
Honestly, if you can't talk to him about something like this, you shouldn't be sleeping with him.
Should I respond “ look I enjoy hanging with you and don’t need a serious relationship or anything but I don’t want to be someone’s backup plan and that’s what it felt like”.
Should I respond “ look I enjoy hanging with you and don’t need a serious relationship or anything but I don’t want to be someone’s backup plan and that’s what it felt like”.
Are you looking for casual sex, just with the courtesy of making plans?
Should I respond “ look I enjoy hanging with you and don’t need a serious relationship or anything but I don’t want to be someone’s backup plan and that’s what it felt like”.
You can text that if you want, but there's no guarantee that he will begin behaving the way you want.
He could just hear, "Yes let's have sex..." and not care about anything else. Who knows?
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Ok maybe I will. Yes we did but we also would hang out and got along well so wasn’t strictly sex.
Sounds like you still hope it will turn into more, though, which is usually a no-win situation.
Ok maybe I will. Yes we did but we also would hang out and got along well so wasn’t strictly sex.
You're not friends so it's not a FWB situation. If both times led to sex then it was mostly about sex.
When you tell a person that you want casual, that's what you're going to get. No definitive plans, no labels, no exclusivity, and no priority. And yes, he's probably being "casual" with other women. Are you being honest with yourself in saying that's the kind of relationship you want?
Why did he message you? Probably because he's interested in hooking up again and was testing the waters. If this guy can't give you what you want, then don't respond and block him so that he can't get you thinking about him again.
Ok maybe I will. Yes we did but we also would hang out and got along well so wasn’t strictly sex.
For him it was. The hanging out was to get to that part.
You're thinking that maybe he also enjoys your company and would like to have something of some meaning out of the bed. Or you're wanting him to at least pretend enough that he doesn't just come by literally for sex and leave.
But if he's already sampled the goods, and is refusing to put forth any effort? I mean, it's not like you held out for a commitment. So it's not a matter of assuring him of that.
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