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Originally Posted by cleasach
If it is part of one's culture to have multiple wives or mistresses, then the people are aware of and accepting that as part of life. I have no problem with that.
But a couple who pledge fidelity to one another and then one cheats should be called cheating. The cheater, before commencing with the cheating, undoubtedly though about their significant other and how wrong it is to do this, yet chose to proceed. That says everything about what the cheater thinks about the significant other to whom they pledged monogamy. To me, there is no coming back from that.
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I think its a part of most cultures to have mistresses and/or wives. Not American culture, though.
Imagine a culture in which the man can do what they please while the women are holed up at home unable to do anything but keep house and tend to children.
Then imagine a culture in which men are doing what they please and women are also doing what they please. If there are children they hire nannies to care for said children while said women are enjoying themselves. And there is plenty of household money to fund all this, so, no reason anyone has to shame anyone for not pulling one's weight? Said housewife gave birth to two or three children and said children are being cared for while both husband and and wife are doing things outside the home.
If the question is, "Dang, how can a wife or husband take another lover," from what I have seen its not that uncommon.
People love to have sex in new relationships. Its called honeymoon. Novelty = sexual passion.
But, 10 years on, does the same sexual passion still exist?
I am not sure. And I am not sure on the account of both men and women.
Are both men and women allowed sexual gratification? If they married someone 10 years ago and now at...10 years later, the same partner isn't quite turning them on the same way that partner did 10 years ago.
There are two options. The unsatisfied partner can just get a divorce and upgrade to someone new who is doing it for them.
Or they can stay with the tried and true partner they have been with for 10 or 15 years, and who has become as familiar as a relative. Like a sister, now. But maybe they crave that mysterious and exciting new and thrilling partner?
What should the familiar sister-type wife do? Not let him seek out some new mysterious and exciting partner?
I mean come on girl as awesome as you may be do you think your husband will be as excited by you in ten years as he is now?
Can you let him seek out new stimulation in 10 years?