Would you date a drug user? (dating, children, problems, relations)

[movin'on]

Even if they say they are going to quit? I believe in giving people chances (maybe), but I am just curious how others feel.

[Chanteuse d' Opéra]

This is an easy one for me: NO.

[movin'on]

Originally Posted by Chanteuse d' Opéra

This is an easy one for me: NO.

Does it matter the kind of drug they do?

[Hillman]

Use to do some Illegal drugs.But now I do a bunch of Legal ones.Some make me really Loopy,good Pain Meds.

hillman

[cricket_factor]

I think you need to attend an "open" Narcotics Anonymous meeting in your area and see for yourself what kind of problems can come with dating a drug user.

Then you should attend an Al-Anon meeting. Seriously.

[Chanteuse d' Opéra]

Originally Posted by movin'on

Does it matter the kind of drug they do?

Unless it's Advil or Tylenol for a headache but I've seen the effects of hard substance abuse & it is not pretty, much less relevant to a relationship. There is enough drama in this life to add drugs to the mix.

[movin'on]

Originally Posted by cricket_factor

I think you need to attend an "open" Narcotics Anonymous meeting in your area and see for yourself what kind of problems can come with dating a drug user.

Then you should attend an Al-Anon meeting. Seriously.

I actually have been to one of those. I've gone to Al Anon once too. Perhaps I really have a screw loose, especially considering the drug in question.

[movin'on]

Originally Posted by Chanteuse d' Opéra

Unless it's Advil or Tylenol for a headache but I've seen the effects of hard substance abuse & it is not pretty, much less relevant to a relationship. There is enough drama in this life to add drugs to the mix.

I guess you are right, but I did offer to go to a meeting with him. Funny, but he never answered that email.

[Tropical Trouble]

Oh, HELL NO!

[allforcats]

This is a very easy one for me too -- NO.

Repeated use of substances stronger than aspirin cause holes in the brain which cause an inability to think complexly, accurate and rationally, as well as causing damage to the DNA, organs, blood vessels, eyesight, and so forth.

All that means the user's grasp of reality is faulty, ability to understand life and him/herself ia also faulty and limited, AND since their drug usage has compromised their DNA any children they conceive will also have faulty DNA.

So the prospect is for an irrational relationship with the user, and a difficult life for any children they may have. I think that life is complicated enough for sane people, and that intimate relationships are difficult enough for sane people -- without deliberate choosing to attempt a sanity which can never be achieved in the insane world that drugs create in the human mind, body and chemistry.

I wish you wisdom.