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Sure, it seems to sound logical to you - show me some actual studies.
I know exactly what part of a guy's brain is amplified during sex.
I think you've read too much evolutionary psychology. Many guys spend more time taking a crap than to have sex soooooo...yeah, not buying it. And who has sex (or takes a crap) out in the middle of the African grasslands - you wouldn't find SOME kind of cover?
but when taking a crap you can still be aware of your surroundings during sex not so much, it's more like
Besides, "instant, extreme mutual attraction" sounds too dramatic. I don't have the energy for that, lol. And it can be very deceptive. That "instant sparks" thing can be a real pitfall.
Yes, agree. I wouldn't trust "instant, extreme" physical attraction as any kind of barometer of a good relationship. I would be super suspicious of the blinders that can cause.
I wouldn't do it because frankly I've never had any problem finding that raw animal attraction with people.
I think that strong attraction is actually a distraction if you really want to get to know someone and assess their potential for long term.
You become like: "Forget the conversation! Where's the bed?!"
The goal now is to date and get to know each other for at least a few months before letting the chemistry overwhelm us. No more single minded pursuit of pleasure. It might be nice to actually build something with someone rather than pretend like we're on the discovery channel.
No. That kind of sudden lust is the root and cause of many bad decisions.
I am also not that desperate for male attention and company as to dabble in DNA for it.
P.S. It's not genetics that attract us to one another. It's vision, hearing, and smell.
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Then you just have not met that person, but why would you not like it if it happened? it feels great, better than any drug.
I do wish you would stop invalidating other people's experience of love and attraction. It is not the same for everyone, and it is not for any of us to tell someone else they "have just not met that person" because they don't experience love and attraction as you do. I can promise you that there are a lot of happily married people out there who did not run on boner power when they first met.
I wouldn't do it because frankly I've never had any problem finding that raw animal attraction with people.
I think that strong attraction is actually a distraction if you really want to get to know someone and assess their potential for long term.
You become like: "Forget the conversation! Where's the bed?!"
The goal now is to date and get to know each other for at least a few months before letting the chemistry overwhelm us. No more single minded pursuit of pleasure. It might be nice to actually build something with someone rather than pretend like we're on the discovery channel.
That sounds like interviewing for a job , seriously though I think such a service would be most appealing to people who never or rarely are on the receiving end of that kind of instant attraction, the people who have always had to "win over" or "grow on" everyone they have ever had a relationship with.
Everyone on the planet has someone who will at one glance go love struck with them at about 5 feet of proximity, problem is there may be only 8 of those people within 50 mile radius of each other.
Yes, agree. I wouldn't trust "instant, extreme" physical attraction as any kind of barometer of a good relationship. I would be super suspicious of the blinders that can cause.
That sounds like interviewing for a job , seriously though I think such a service would be most appealing to people who never or rarely are on the receiving end of that kind of instant attraction, the people who have always had to "win over" or "grow on" everyone they have ever had a relationship with.
Everyone on the planet has someone who will at one glance go love struck with them at about 5 feet of proximity, problem is there may be only 8 of those people within 50 mile radius of each other.
It's not a job, it's a relationship. If someone is only interested in raw passionate sex, then they might see it as a job interview. But some people are also interested in building a relationship that is deeper than sex and lust.
Sex and lust are easy to find and disposable. But a lasting bond that runs deep is hard to find but worth it if one has the patience and self control to build it.
Much of who we have attraction to is genetic, many of us have run into this, that person you meet and instantly sparks fly, often it's merely a case of having opposite immune systems any children you make will have a healthier than average immune system so it will more likely live past age 5 which is why both your brains go into "let's make babies" mode. or diverse generic's(natures way of preventing accidental inbreeding) it's why sometimes someone you have nothing in common with and who does not even look like what you're attracted to can sometimes set off a dopamine rush in your brain once in close proximity to them before you even get to talk to them. or why someone can be a perfect match on paper and you find them attractive but "no spark" (they're probably a distant cousin or you both had ancestors from the same village in the old country)
But imagine if science could predict with 90+% certainty matches where you BOTH will have instant sparks fly? and all you had to do was send them your saliva or a RAW-DNA file from 23&me, ancestoryDNA or any of the other DNA services that exist?
Oh and you would not have a profile or photos to go on, just an inbox to contact your matches and the city they live in(to not let you get pre conceived notions before meeting in person).
No. What if the tests had an error? I would rather feel unplanned natural attraction.
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, seriously though I think such a service would be most appealing to people who never or rarely are on the receiving end of that kind of instant attraction, the people who have always had to "win over" or "grow on" everyone they have ever had a relationship with.
