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Ask her out for REAL! She sure doesn't want to go on a "kind of" date. If you ask her directly she knows what she is getting into and can give you a real answer...then you know if she wants to actually go out or not. It's really sooooooo simple.
If I were you, I'd call her on her passive response. Act like the "thank you" was a yes and propose a date and time. If she's going to decline the date she needs to own it. Maybe she will learn to be more direct in future.
And she'll have hopefully gotten the OP to be direct! ...as he should have been in the first place. Faint heart never won fair lady.
Happy new year and merry Christmas everyone.
There’s a girl who I invited on a date few days ago. But she said that she is out of town because of the holidays. All I said was, it’s okey, maybe we can still go out once you are back. Today when I wrote her and congratulated, I, kind of reminded her about date, I am still interested in going out with you once you are back. All she said, was thank you. Now, I have a feeling that she politely refused and there’s absolutely no point in asking her, when she’s back. Am I right?
If you want to know if she's refusing a date, ask her on a date directly.
That she wasn't necessarily super involved in her response on NYE when she probably has to deal with a million "happy new year" messages isn't a very solid place to start from.
Wait for her to be back, then ask her out, see what her answer is.
I asked her, when she’s back and she replied with such message “ it’s not that important when I am back, I don’t know when I have a day off. Let me settle and I will write to you, okey?” Well, and I said okey
Happy new year and merry Christmas everyone.
There’s a girl who I invited on a date few days ago. But she said that she is out of town because of the holidays. All I said was, it’s okey, maybe we can still go out once you are back. Today when I wrote her and congratulated, I, kind of reminded her about date, I am still interested in going out with you once you are back. All she said, was thank you. Now, I have a feeling that she politely refused and there’s absolutely no point in asking her, when she’s back. Am I right?
Shes blowing you off in my opinion. If she didn't say something along the lines of sure, sounds great we can plan something later. Instead you're basically getting monosyllabic answers back.
Shes blowing you off in my opinion. If she didn't say something along the lines of sure, sounds great we can plan something later. Instead you're basically getting monosyllabic answers back.
I disagree, in that case she would have answered wih a plain NO.
OP wait for her reply when she comes back, she promised to reply.
I disagree, in that case she would have answered wih a plain NO.
OP wait for her reply when she comes back, she promised to reply.
I'll be blunt here, if he asks a third time he's getting into creeper territory in my opinion. Even in 2022 some women still have a harder time being more direct when it comes to something like rejecting someone.
I'll be blunt here, if he asks a third time he's getting into creeper territory in my opinion. Even in 2022 some women still have a harder time being more direct when it comes to something like rejecting someone.
The ball is firmly in her court in my opinion.
Was me, if I get anything short of a solid 'yes', even if it's 1/1000th of a millimeter short, then it's a 'no'.
And the ball will then always be in her court because I won't be around for any returns.
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I'll be blunt here, if he asks a third time he's getting into creeper territory in my opinion. Even in 2022 some women still have a harder time being more direct when it comes to something like rejecting someone.
The ball is firmly in her court in my opinion.
He's already gone too far. It was a clear no in the first place. If someone really wants to go out with you, they make it clear. If they don't, they very often are less clear. The reasons for this are rather well understood when its women (soft) rejecting men.
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