Did she politely refuse a date? (man, straight, social, reason)
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I hate when girls string guys along. Is it not fair to make them read in between the lines and then ask again just to give another vague answer.
I decline dates politely in a clear manner and sometimes get a dick pic as a reply. Oh well. At least I was clear and have another pic in my dick folder
You should reply: "Thanks for proving I made the right decision."
I hate when girls string guys along. Is it not fair to make them read in between the lines and then ask again just to give another vague answer.
I decline dates politely in a clear manner and sometimes get a dick pic as a reply. Oh well. At least I was clear and have another pic in my dick folder
No one is "making" anyone 'read between the lines'.
And no one can 'string you along', unless you're willing to be 'strung'.
The point is, that we can each have our own criteria. As some others have said, if they got a vague response when asking someone out, they would take that as a 'no'. Doesn't matter WHY. Doesn't matter if the other person is going out of town. Doesn't matter if they're lying about going out of town. The point is, that the answer received isn't a 'yes'. They're not going to waste their time trying to analyze what the vague response could mean. They simply take it to mean 'no'...with no hard feelings.
But we also have to understand that some people do have busy lives. And, expecting someone to 'move mountains' in order to go on a first date with us--especially if we barely know the person-- is a bit too arrogant for my taste.
I recall a friend years ago at an office job. He was a smart guy but totally didn't have a clue about some things. Told me over a beer one night about a girl in his dept he had asked out. She said she was busy for awhile to come. He pulled out his planner and inquired about 3 months ahead. Told me he didn't understand how she didn't have 1 free night coming up in 3 months. I had to explain to him that she was not interested and was trying to let him down gently. Also explained that some women, and men, choose not to date coworkers. Had to explain in detail. He later dated a friend of mine and things were good for a time but he did stupid stuff to ruin it with her. Nothing evil or dangerous, just foolish drama kinds of stuff.
I recall a friend years ago at an office job. He was a smart guy but totally didn't have a clue about some things. Told me over a beer one night about a girl in his dept he had asked out. She said she was busy for awhile to come. He pulled out his planner and inquired about 3 months ahead. Told me he didn't understand how she didn't have 1 free night coming up in 3 months. I had to explain to him that she was not interested and was trying to let him down gently. Also explained that some women, and men, choose not to date coworkers. Had to explain in detail. He later dated a friend of mine and things were good for a time but he did stupid stuff to ruin it with her. Nothing evil or dangerous, just foolish drama kinds of stuff.
I don't understand what's wrong with a simple no. There's no mistaken there's no need to ask again later it's clear it's concise and it's final.
I don't understand what's wrong with a simple no. There's no mistaken there's no need to ask again later it's clear it's concise and it's final.
Unfortunately, it's not as simple as that.
You just never know what kind of a person you are dealing with and how they will react to negative news.
As anyone who has spent time on this subsection of the forum can attest to, many people are absolutely clueless when it comes to courtship, dating, and relationships in general. They refuse to acknowledge what normal people like us would have from the star and moved on with our lives. Their childish egos cannot accept rejection of any form.
You just never know what kind of a person you are dealing with and how they will react to negative news.
As anyone who has spent time on this subsection of the forum can attest to, many people are absolutely clueless when it comes to courtship, dating, and relationships in general. They refuse to acknowledge what normal people like us would have from the star and moved on with our lives. Their childish egos cannot accept rejection of any form.
Look at the age of all of them....it seems to be generational.
I wish that it was, but things like this have always happened. We just didn't hear about them as we now do and many times, if something horrible like this occurred, the woman was always suspect to a degree in that what did she do to cause him to do this to her? Because it surely must have been something that she did or didn't do; that she "owed" guys a chance at dating her.
Not that I'm one to live in fear (never have been), but as a young woman, I discovered early on that one of the most effective ways to dissuade a would-be suitor in whom I was not interested was to say that I already had a boyfriend/husband. Some guys just wouldn't gracefully accept a polite "no"--and not in a cute way like that rap song from back in the day ("I Got a Man" by Positive K).
It's something that I resent in a small way, this having to hide behind this notion that I already belonged to another man, but for some guys, it's the only thing that makes them move on. Occasionally, I'd run into guys for whom my being already "off-market" was a challenge rather than a deterrent to their advances.
Pretty much every other woman I know has at least one story like this.
You just never know what kind of a person you are dealing with and how they will react to negative news.
so you act like you would if you weren't distracted by these other things you're doing that since the wrong message
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As anyone who has spent time on this subsection of the forum can attest to, many people are absolutely clueless when it comes to courtship, dating, and relationships in general. They refuse to acknowledge what normal people like us would have from the star and moved on with our lives. Their childish egos cannot accept rejection of any form.
so you act like you would if you weren't distracted by these other things you're doing that since the wrong message
We aren't talking about it because this isn't the appropriate forum to talk about it.
So you make a guy think that you're sort of interested so they don't murder you I'm not sure that makes much sense.
Sounds like that type of attitude is what attracts the weirdos and discourages normal guys.
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