Stood up on second date (Latin, romantic, social, emotionally)
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She has used an excuse of being “sick” in the past without actually appearing to be. I am not empathetic to this excuse 1. Because she felt good enough to take her dog to the park in 10 degree weather that same morning I left 2. Because I strongly suspect she is lying and 3 and most importantly: Because of the lack of communication. No one feels fine at 6pm and gets dreadfully ill 6 hrs later and I wasn’t born 10 minutes ago. Something really sounded off with the way this played out and it surprises me how quickly many are willing to give her the benefit of the doubt on this with the info I’ve provided. She claimed to having not felt great earlier in the week but I spoke to her over the past few days and she seemed improved. Now all of a sudden after I asked her 12 times beforehand if she felt up to it and get to booking everything, she then all has this great realization that she isn't well enough to go? I don't buy it and I would only hope that if I were the one acting like this, people wouldn't be so sympathetic or supportive to my behavior.
Her whole behavior all along proved that she is indeed a "Liar, Liar, pants on fire," going on a doggie walk on the following morning, ha! and Mink and Don'tH8me and others are just gullible people. Dump her.
Last edited by Rent.in.ny; 01-22-2022 at 08:20 AM..
Now all of a sudden after I asked her 12 times beforehand if she felt up to it and get to booking everything, she then all has this great realization that she isn't well enough to go? I don't buy it and I would only hope that if I were the one acting like this, people wouldn't be so sympathetic or supportive to my behavior.
You asked her the same question 12 times?? With that new information I suspect she changed her mind about wanting to spend any more time with you. You may have come across as annoying and even obsessive.
People with Covid often feel fine. That is not the issue. I had one friend who had to cancel a big trip he had planned for his wife’s 40th because his whole family got Covid. Apparently only one of them had any symptoms. Even so, they were still contagious. I have allergies. Sometimes I am not sure if I am coming down with something or just have allergies, so I decide to stay home for the day.
I don’t know how you know she has a history of this, but I know a lot of people who feel a little off one day on more than one occasion. My real question is who agrees to go to a time share with someone on a 2nd date?
Who WOULDN'T want to go on a skiing trip if they felt well? Omicron symptoms develop fast. My husband was well at 10 in the morning and thoroughly ill by 3pm. That’s what happens. Three days later he was fine.
The OP should have shown his independence and healthy self esteem by going on his own as soon as he got the news — or inviting another friend or two at the last minute to join him there.
As for walking the dog; if you have one it has to get exercise. Omicron seems mild for most people. You can go outside if you need to.
Since the OP got so agitated by her lack of response, he needs to move on if he can’t relax. She might not have the same level of interest he does.
Who WOULDN'T want to go on a skiing trip if they felt well? Omicron symptoms develop fast. My husband was well at 10 in the morning and thoroughly ill by 3pm. That’s what happens. Three days later he was fine.
The OP should have shown his independence and healthy self esteem by going on his own as soon as he got the news — or inviting another friend or two at the last minute to join him there.
As for walking the dog; if you have one it has to get exercise. Omicron seems mild for most people. You can go outside if you need to.
Since the OP got so agitated by her lack of response, he needs to move on if he can’t relax. She might not have the same level of interest he does.
I think she just pretended to know how to ski - few American can - and came up during the night with the covid excuse.
Well, I feel like we don't have the whole story. So she cancelled: headache, coughing, sneezing. Could be serious. Has she at any point (maybe after getting some feedback from a doctor) suggested rescheduling the date? That would be an accurate indication of where she's at vis-a-vis the OP.
She has used an excuse of being “sick” in the past without actually appearing to be. I am not empathetic to this excuse 1. Because she felt good enough to take her dog to the park in 10 degree weather that same morning I left 2. Because I strongly suspect she is lying and 3 and most importantly: Because of the lack of communication. No one feels fine at 6pm and gets dreadfully ill 6 hrs later and I wasn’t born 10 minutes ago. Something really sounded off with the way this played out and it surprises me how quickly many are willing to give her the benefit of the doubt on this with the info I’ve provided. She claimed to having not felt great earlier in the week but I spoke to her over the past few days and she seemed improved. Now all of a sudden after I asked her 12 times beforehand if she felt up to it and get to booking everything, she then all has this great realization that she isn't well enough to go? I don't buy it and I would only hope that if I were the one acting like this, people wouldn't be so sympathetic or supportive to my behavior.
If you have only had one date how do you know she has used sick excuses before?
Yes, people do get sick quickly. It's quite possible to feel fine and to suddenly have chills and be puking your guts out or have a ferocious headache an hour later. Not all illnesses start out slow and build up like the common cold.
I've walked dogs and dragged myself out of bed when I have been horribly sick. It has to be done, pretty much like how a sick parent still has to change a baby's diaper and feed it.
If you feel she lied to you about being sick just be glad you found out soon into the relationship. OTOH, If she was sick, or had even just spent the night being sick, you had unrealistic expectations for her to go skiing the next morning. Feeling better doesn't have to equal feeling completely well.
I started out feeling sympathy for you having put so much effort into the second date only to have her cancel on you, but the more you have ranted makes me think she's better off not dating you.
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