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It sounds like for whatever reason, the fire pit is very important to him. Since arguing is rare for your relationship, I wouldn't dig in on this issue. I would explain that you love that he loves his fire pit and that you don't want it gone but that it just makes you anxious when it's left unattended. Seems like there is an easy compromise to be had.
This, but I also think there's more going on with your husband that caused his reaction in the first place. Of course, you haven't given us any background about that.
Is it 10' or 15' away from your house. And how big is the firepit? Unless there is an overhang or your home is built out of wood and go up like a matchbox is an ember hit it. I really don't think there is an issue with your house being 15' away.
But on the flip side, you should never have a fire un attended. Why was it lit in the first place if no one was there??
Is it 10' or 15' away from your house. And how big is the firepit? Unless there is an overhang or your home is built out of wood and go up like a matchbox is an ember hit it. I really don't think there is an issue with your house being 15' away.
But on the flip side, you should never have a fire un attended. Why was it lit in the first place if no one was there??
She hasn't really defined what she means by "unattended". He must have been in the house in order for them to get into his fight. It doesn't make any sense that someone would light a fire if he wasn't going to be outside to enjoy it which leads me to believe that he just happened to be inside grabbing a drink or something at the moment she got home.
This, but I also think there's more going on with your husband that caused his reaction in the first place. Of course, you haven't given us any background about that.
yes, lets pick her marriage apart and find a reason for her to get divorced.
I was just thinking that he overreacted unless she came out swinging first. She did say she was in a bad mood when she got home but she didn't say exactly the tone of her voice or her body language or expressions.
She hasn't really defined what she means by "unattended". He must have been in the house in order for them to get into his fight. It doesn't make any sense that someone would light a fire if he wasn't going to be outside to enjoy it which leads me to believe that he just happened to be inside grabbing a drink or something at the moment she got home.
Humans are not logical beings. A lot of things they do don't make sense. Maybe having a nice warm fire awaiting him is hubby's security blanket.
Again, first and foremost this is a legal and insurance issue. I have not seen OP, or any of the problem-solvers, address this.
But all else falls by the wayside until those questions are satisfied. The argument was good fortune, it should convince a responsible adult to look into those two matters.
He felt that when I walked in the door I was "looking for a fight" because of my body language. As I already said, I was tense. The workload at the office has been horrendous with no relief in sight and I was just about at the breaking point, but only as far as the office was concerned. I was not looking for a fight at home; I just hadn't keyed down yet.
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I was just thinking that he overreacted unless she came out swinging first. She did say she was in a bad mood when she got home but she didn't say exactly the tone of her voice or her body language or expressions.
What more do you need? They were both tense, words were flying, they talked about it and moved on, while City Data still argues over it.
What more do you need? They were both tense, words were flying, they talked about it and moved on, while City Data still argues over it.
I'm traveling and did not have time to read the most recent responses (since this morning) so I did not realize they had moved on. Good for them.
Last edited by pathrunner; 02-17-2022 at 05:22 PM..
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