Is this normal ?? (woman, partner, mature, relations)

[unknown55]

I'm a female, in my 20s and my partner is the same age as me. Is it normal that my partner, while we were lying in bed, hit the wall above my head after we had a bad day? He has never hit me. And I don't believe he ever would hurt me physically.

[brightdoglover]

Normal, yes, in an immature acting-out whiny putz. And you don't know if that could move to abusive to you- that would also be "normal" in such a person.

[North Beach Person]

Is it normal? No.

Do some people (many times mostly men) punch things (doors, walls, cars, etc.)? Yes.

Would I, if I were a woman, be concerned if it happens a lot, especially over what amount to just run of the mill, everyday frustrations? Yes.

[oh-eve]

come on girl, you know the answer.

THIS IS NOT NORMAL.

[Euskalherria]

Hitting walls???

He may be in his 20s chronologically but mentally he sounds like an oversized toddler.

Does he pound his fists on the highchair, whoops, TABLE when dinner isn't on the TABLE at 6 on the dot too?

Sorry, but hitting is so idiotic.

[zentropa]

Unrestrained anger is never OK, hun.

It's also telling that he hit the wall above YOUR head, not just a random wall. I suspect he was trying to scare or intimidate you into compliance. Lucky you!

[E-Twist]

No. Good reason to dump him. File him under immature Mod cut..

Just curious - does he damage any walls and if so is he able and willing to repair them?

Mod cut.

[redplum33]

Originally Posted by zentropa

he hit the wall above YOUR head, not just a random wall. I suspect he was trying to scare or intimidate you

^ This, OP. There's a real problem. Definitely not normal.

[Ruth4Truth]

Originally Posted by unknown55

I'm a female, in my 20s and my partner is the same age as me. Is it normal that my partner, while we were lying in bed, hit the wall above my head after we had a bad day? He has never hit me. And I don't believe he ever would hurt me physically.

What do you mean, "after we had a bad dey"? Do you mean each of you had a bad day somehow, somewhere, each in your own way, or your relationship had a bad day--you were at odds with each other over something? Because it sounds like he was angry at you specifically, and was trying to scare you. Because he blamed you in his mind.

Not a good sign.

[Dwatted Wabbit]

OP, how do you think he'd react if you said "I need some distance in our relationship"? This doesn't sound promising. That wall is just a few inches from your face. I'd say there's a message there.