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If I know someone isn't a great conversationalist, I wouldn't trap them into daily, hours-long phone calls that they're struggling with. There have to be other ways for OP to bond and communicate--text memes to each other; write emails back and forth, have shorter calls less often, etc.
I, you, we've all come across these types of people. The ones that just drone on and on and on. I've got one friend that asks me something about me or my family, then it's off to the races about themselves, yap yap yap.
I've got a coworker that whenever we go to lunch he just drones on and on. Often times it's about some completely boring obscure topic and I wonder where the hell he finds these things to drone on about.
Can't get a word in edgewise with some people.
One of the funny things I've noticed is that there is a stereotype of women being more on the talkative side. Not in my experience, same goes with gossiping.
I've been around far more men that talk excessively and gossip excessively than I have woman doing that.
If I know someone isn't a great conversationalist, I wouldn't trap them into daily, hours-long phone calls that they're struggling with. There have to be other ways for OP to bond and communicate--text memes to each other; write emails back and forth, have shorter calls less often, etc.
It's funny how people assume things about this relationship. Such as -- I trap HIM into hours-long phone calls. Nothing could be further from the truth.
Maybe its just their way of communicating. Listening is not their strong suit. Sometimes when I get with a particular group of my wife's friends, they ALL talk at the same time. Sometimes gets to be sensory overload for me. They're all good caring people, but they are all talkers/entertainers, not listeners.
On the other hand, maybe he is just starved for someone to listen to him. And he will talk your ear off. Sounds like there may be some particular situation that may have triggered that behavior.
Sometimes communicating is a lot more difficult on the phone because you can't use body language to steer the conversation.
Don't know that I have helpful advice, but I wanted to counter all the people saying he must be a terrible, socially incompetent person who doesn't care a whiff about you.
Maybe if you value the relationship and can't get him to listen, make sure you have other people who you CAN actually talk to.
Yes, I appreciate the posters like yourself who have actually given some thoughtful advice rather than making assumptions and being downright nasty. And not just on my post. It's sad to be that miserable with your life. Thanks again.
I understand that sometimes a person in one's life is really needed emotionally and that person might be a life raft - but sometimes that one person who is sort of a lifesaver has significant faults or deficits.
It's funny how people assume things about this relationship. Such as -- I trap HIM into hours-long phone calls. Nothing could be further from the truth.
The truth as you put it in the OP is that you have hours long phone conversations. It seems like he isn’t particularly adept at them, so what other communication methods have you tried. Do you text? FaceTime? Etc? A lot of people just aren’t great on the phone and require other things like visual cues to help them get into a conversation.
This may just be my observation but I’ve had a few people agree — A LOT of people both male and female just aren’t good at talking. Conversations can be very shallow with very little depth. I’ve theorized that it has something to do with the internet shortening our attention spans…and possibly how it has made people sorta disposable so a point of deeper conversation is rarely reached. Just talked with someone about this last night…our supposedly brief conversation ran into 3 hours…a back and forth conversation like that stimulates me possibly more than sex though. I’ve talked with some people where it’s like you have to pull some words out of them. I’ll call out the awkward silence and say what’s going here in a joking manner.
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. Guy has already asked her for money.
