Am I the dating version of radioactive? (husband, social, seeking)
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Again there is a reason or answer for just about everything........especially when it comes to dating
OK, let's play this out. I went out with a guy I liked very much. We had fun together, laughed together, good sex, same socioeconomic background, values, etc. But at some point we both decided to just remain friends because "something" just wasn't there. Maybe it was passion, maybe it was that we were too similar and so didn't find each other that interesting. Or maybe it was because we were both recently divorced and couldn't really share our hearts fully yet. We are still good friends.
Maybe you could help us figure out why this relationship didn't work out. Because according to you there is one definitive reason.
OK, let's play this out. I went out with a guy I liked very much. We had fun together, laughed together, good sex, same socioeconomic background, values, etc. But at some point we both decided to just remain friends because "something" just wasn't there. Maybe it was passion, maybe it was that we were too similar and so didn't find each other that interesting. Or maybe it was because we were both recently divorced and couldn't really share our hearts fully yet. We are still good friends.
Maybe you could help us figure out why this relationship didn't work out. Because according to you there is one definitive reason.
Never said that there was a definitive reason. Sometimes there are many reasons.........This would fall under many reasons. All of them could and should be pointed out. You went out with this person multiple times so its not like you are throwing word salad at someone after one date.
Easy. The 'other person' doesn't feel that way, they feel that the 'fit' is 'good'.
And 'no' ALWAYS wins over 'yes'.
*Pssst! (whispers to Euskalherria)* I get the feeling that even if someone TOLD the OP WHY they wouldn't want to date him/ date him again, he wouldn't accept the reason.
Easy. The 'other person' doesn't feel that way, they feel that the 'fit' is 'good'.
And 'no' ALWAYS wins over 'yes'.
I will say this as a woman who experienced dealing with good, decent guys who felt that the fit was good even when I didn't: sometimes they were so insistent that needing what they deemed to be a legitimate reason for my disinclination to further pursue a dating relationship with them that they began to cross the line from nice into pushiness.
Not once did I ever push a guy in this manner even though there were times that I would have loved to continue seeing a guy after he had decided that we weren't a good fit as romantic partners.
As you wrote, "no" always trumps a "yes" when it comes to dating and "no" is a complete answer.
*Pssst! (whispers to Euskalherria)* I get the feeling that even if someone TOLD the OP WHY they wouldn't want to date him/ date him again, he wouldn't accept the reason.
Sure, but we can flip this around: she is not accepting his reasons why they would be a good fit.
Again, as I've said... 'no' wins over 'yes'. Whoever says 'no' is the 'winner'.
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