Why can't I find a "good guy?" (guys, cheating, husband)
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So would I! I did some soul-searching years ago and realized that most of the men I got involved with had lied about something significant within the first 3 months of the relationship. Unfortunately, I didn't discover the lie until I was much deeper into the relationship.
After that, I started acting smarter, and coined my motto: "FIRST lie, good-BYE."
What do they all lie about ?
l must be a rare one there's nothing in love l need to lie about
I sure see a lot of couples and families. I think someone's math is off.
Yes. It always amazes me when people try to apply math and strategy to dating. It doesn't work that way. It works this way:
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Originally Posted by Threestep2
You can take your dating profile, requirements and whatever else and properly dispose of it. A relationship is interaction, giving and taking and building upon it.
LOL. . . Women say that they want a "good guy" but the fact remains that women are attracted to the "bad boys".
I know that for a fact. In my teens, I was that boy that mothers warned their daughters about. (snicker) Had plenty of attention of the "ladies." And I wasn't a jock, muscular, nor any other typical measures of attractiveness women gush about. In fact, I was short, hairy, knock kneed and dumpy.
(Favorite song : Ramblin' Gamblin' Man, by Bob Seeger. "Ain't good looking, but you know I ain't shy
Ain't afraid to look a girl, hey, in the eye
So if you need some loving, and you need it right away
Take a little time out, and maybe I'll stay")
I acknowledge that some women are open to casual relationships but that doesn't mean that these women are looking to be treated without kindness.
I sure see a lot of couples and families. I think someone's math is off.
But what you see among your personal friends in your small part of the country is not very meaningful. The fact is more people than ever are staying single. People are getting married much later and substantially fewer are having families.
Math and statistics are not the answer to anything (and statistics are usually twisted), but they can be helpful tools in analyzing a social issue.
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But what you see among your personal friends in your small part of the country is not very meaningful. The fact is more people than ever are staying single. People are getting married much later and substantially fewer are having families.
Not being married /= staying single. I can't even count the number of people I know that are in LTRs that aren't married.
And its great people are waiting longer to get married, if they get married. The data is overwhelming that if you wait until 30s at least for your 1st marriage that's far far more likely to sustain over time. The divorce rate for people that have at least a bachelors and first marry late 20s to 30s, or later, is really pretty low.
What do they all lie about ?
l must be a rare one there's nothing in love l need to lie about
You would indeed be a rare one if you never lie about anything. There are lots of decent men out there, but in the actual dating pool, men lie about their job, they lie about their criminal record, they lie about smoking, drinking, and drug use, they lie about their intentions, they lie about their marital status (lots of married men out there trying to hook up), they misrepresent their manners and their temper, and they lie about their plans for the future.
And that is just a start.
And it's not that women don't lie, either. They misrepresent their looks and their health and their income and income future. They pretend they love going down and lie about their history. They hide their bad temper or their laziness or even their children.
It's a minefield out there and a person has to be cautious about forming an attachment and long term relationship or you will discover you didn't get what you thought you were getting
What do they all lie about ?
l must be a rare one there's nothing in love l need to lie about
lucky you if you don't have any experience on that.
Lies that come to light after a few months could be: still texting the ex, was married/is still married, has children, uses drugs, is broke, mentally ill, can only perform on viagra, he introduces you to two nice friends but after a while you get to see his real friends (losers/criminals), family history of criminals, .... there is an endless list
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