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Back when I was in high school, I had a boyfriend who joined the army when he graduated from highschool. We split up mutually, but everytime he came home (once every 2 years,) I'd break up with whoever I was dating and go out with him for the time he was home. We wrote torrid letters to each other (pre-email) during his time away, though we were certainly not exclusive. This continued through my high school graduation and into my years in college. In my senior year in college, I got engaged. My army friend came home from Alaska on home leave and came to visit me in Virginia where I was living with my fiance. I completely and totally cheated on my fiance with my army boyfriend. I ended up breaking off the engagement several months later (I figured if I was already cheating, something wasn't right!)
My army guy's time in the army was up and he moved back home. At this point, he said, "I want to get married." I was shocked. I wasn't ready and he said that if I wasn't going to marry him, he'd need to break up with me because he really felt ready to get married. Since I was soon heading to West Africa for 2 years, I was ok with that (we were more friends with benefits, albeit GREAT benefits than anything else.) He called me right before his wedding and told me that no matter what, whether I was married or he was married, if we ever met up again, we would have to cheat on our spouses in order to be together again. There have been several times where I've known I might see him. As fun as that time was, I have made sure we never met up again. I'm happily married and will do nothing to jeopardize my great relationship with my hubby!!
hmm, I'm thinking I should have just had a fling with my soon to be ex husband, we always had good sexual chemistry, but he was in no way ready to take on the husband role.
Oh well, back then I thought that good sex could save a marriage. Don't get me wrong, it helps, but I've realized that there needs to be a solid foundation first.
hmm, I'm thinking I should have just had a fling with my soon to be ex husband, we always had good sexual chemistry, but he was in no way ready to take on the husband role.
Ha, same here. Not to mention it really WAS my original intention, but my clouded mind was changed and I hadn't really totally ruled out the possibility at the time...
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than anything else.) He called me right before his wedding and told me that no matter what, whether I was married or he was married, if we ever met up again, we would have to cheat on our spouses in order to be together again. There have been several times where I've known I might see him. As fun as that time was, I have made sure we never met up again. I'm happily married and will do nothing to jeopardize my great relationship with my hubby!!
Don't get me wrong, it helps, but I've realized that there needs to be a solid foundation first. 
