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lt's not shame on him at all l've heard women talking similar stuff a 100 times. He's very good to her and has never mislead her in any way he hasn't known himself. He's hoped he'll get past it and really , what else can we do.
lf we think it's possible you'd go on and try wouldn't you.
lf he knew day one he'd never get past it that would be leading her on.
But yeah , l do agree that at this point now , he does owe it to her bc he has tried, he didn't just give up, but it's just gotten worse.
TBH , it's actually more on her bc she could help the situation by looking after things but she's actually let herself go since they've been together and just let it get even worse.
We could relate a lot more if we knew what "it" was. Also, you sure get all steamed up taking up for your "brother". Looking after things? WTF ? Let herself go...getting worse? Sounds like something far worse than tattoos. We need to know, that's a big diff.
Let herself go? Sounds like a weight issue, not that it couldn't be other things. I think he should break up with her, or get himself to counseling. Maybe with her. A great guy like OP's brother should be able to do better, right?
We could relate a lot more if we knew what "it" was. Also, you sure get all steamed up taking up for your "brother". Looking after things? WTF ? Let herself go...getting worse? Sounds like something far worse than tattoos. We need to know, that's a big diff.
This isn't about me although l do relate.
My brother has been single a long time he's late 40s and would really like to get married but he's just never met the right lady or when he's felt he did it wasn't mutual.
Well he finally met someone and it's been going along nicely and looking really good. Trouble is there's something physical about her that really puts him off sexually and it's bothering him more and more as time goes on. No need to mention the something but l must admit l'd have problems with it too and l do know how he feels.
My brothers situation is very similar and the problem is he just can't get past it sexually and it's just been putting him of more and more. Trouble is they've been together 2yrs now but he's at a loss bc everything else has been so good with her.
Personally l said if it were me it would be effecting me the same and for me , l know it wouldn't be going away.
ldk , it's such a shame for him , all this time and he's finally met someone . Everyone's different of course but if there was something big , for you could it go away , pass in time, could feelings over power it. ?
As l say for me in this case nope, unfortunately they couldn't, not in the bedroom area of things so to speak.
Was "she" born with a penis?
You won't say what "it" is, but can we at least rule that out? Because otherwise I'm convinced it's definitely a penis.
Who mentioned sex life as such , and what would be strange about that anyway - strange to you maybe but not the real world even here you must wander around the forum with your eyes closed. Besides, women and plenty of them discuss that stuff all the time often into so much detail and publicly on forums that it turns your stomach, so what's so strange to you that brothers might talk about stuff, if they did.
As for the rest of your ahh, lost soul my A, you have no idea. Nor as to any superficial either and once again as l said in another post, women also come right here to this forum talking that kind of similar stuff all the time too.
You asked for our thoughts but every time you get one you shut it down and take up for your brother, almost as if it's really you that's going through this. Why not just listen to other people's advice, take it into consideration and read another answer. You get a well rounded idea of what other's think about it and you can do whatever you want with the information received. But don't ask for thoughts then fuss at someone for giving it to you.
This isn't about me although l do relate.
My brother has been single a long time he's late 40s and would really like to get married but he's just never met the right lady or when he's felt he did it wasn't mutual.
Well he finally met someone and it's been going along nicely and looking really good. Trouble is there's something physical about her that really puts him off sexually and it's bothering him more and more as time goes on. No need to mention the something but l must admit l'd have problems with it too and l do know how he feels. l met someone myself once that could've been somebody l could really go for but, she was also seriously covered in tattooing which really just put me right off. l talked about that here and of course was shot down but everyday here there are threads about attraction whether that be about the person or the physical.
My brothers situation is very similar and the problem is he just can't get past it sexually and it's just been putting him of more and more.
Trouble is they've been together 2yrs now but he's at a loss bc everything else has been so good with her.
Personally l said if it were me it would be effecting me the same and for me , l know it wouldn't be going away.
ldk , it's such a shame for him , all this time and he's finally met someone . Everyone's different of course but if there was something big , for you could it go away , pass in time, could feelings over power it. ?
As l say for me in this case nope, unfortunately they couldn't, not in the bedroom area of things so to speak.
I'm just wondering if this problem is something that is permanent, or can he talk to her about it? Will it hurt her feelings? Is it something that can be changed ?
Of course, why should a person have to change something they like about the way they look just because a significant other wants them to? Much better for him to just find someone who is the way he likes from the get-go rather than someone he has to expect to change.
It sounds like OP wants agreement more than advice. (I'm also not sure it's the OP's "brother" who has the problem.)
Me either. He's asking for our thoughts, but shooting everyone down. He leaves us in the dark about this "problem" and if it's his brother, he would not turn to a forum to vent. He wouldn't take up for his brother so abruptly (can't deal with constructive criticism). It's obviously him with the issue, as why would he get so involved and so worked up over his brother's issue. It's him.
I've got a novel idea for your brother. Talk to her about what's bothering him. I bet, after 2 years, she might get the hint that something's wrong.
^^ This ^^
I was seeing someone for a while and the sex was okay until I was in the bathroom one day doing my make-up and he came in and sat on the toilet and started to do his thing before I quickly left the room. That completely turned me off especially since I have two bathrooms and he could have gone into the other one. Sometimes it's something minor that can turn you off to having sex with someone. Of course, in my situation, there were other things but this was the first one.
I was seeing someone for a while and the sex was okay until I was in the bathroom one day doing my make-up and he came in and sat on the toilet and started to do his thing before I quickly left the room. That completely turned me off especially since I have two bathrooms and he could have gone into the other one. Sometimes it's something minor that can turn you off to having sex with someone. Of course, in my situation, there were other things but this was the first one.
Are you saying that he took a poo in front of you while there's a another bathroom??? I've been with Mrs. Chow for 30 yrs now and wouldn't in a million yrs pull a maneuver like that.
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I've been with Mrs. Chow for 30 yrs now and wouldn't in a million yrs pull a maneuver like that.