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Let's reverse this thing OP. I'm a guy in my early 40s. If I wanted women in their mid to late 20s; I would need to understand that I can't give these women a guy their age. I would need to compensate somehow.
Some of the things that I bring to the table (that quite a few younger guys don't bring to the table) are the following:
✓ Decent income
✓ Good credit
✓ Own my own business
✓ Home owner
✓ Not jealous
✓ Not controlling
✓ Both parents deceased (this one might seem strange, but a lot of younger guys are up their parents butts and it's a huge turn off)
✓ I still work out (6ft 4in tall 205 pounds)
✓And I have no problems with spoiling my wife/girlfriend with trips and expensive gifts
And even with ALL of that; I'm still no match for that broke college kid on the basketball team who stands at 6 ft 6 in tall with the perfect young man smile and young man's face to go with it!!! So CLEARLY, the young women that I would be getting are the young women that the broke college jock did not want. That's the reality.
Are there exceptions to this? Certainly, but the odds of me pulling in the 25 year old that another 25 year old could get with less "personal assets" than mine are slim. For starters; the 25-year-old who is the oldest child could very well have parents close to my age. I have a much greater probability of getting the 25-year-old who is the youngest child and has siblings my age. Again, these are the harsh realities of dating younger and these realities are even worse for the older woman than it is for the older man.
I think you can be successful at being that older woman just as long as you have realistic expectations of how you stack up against your younger competition.
I'm 42M and have a pretty good career and net worth of $1E6. I am nearly engaged to a plus sized 37 y/o with 2 kids as I am attracted to her body and personality and we just work well on all aspects of our relationship.
Not every guy is looking to bang the youngest, hottest, thinnest woman that will allow them to.
It is ok to be attracted to much younger guys but I suspect most of those young guys are looking to bang an older woman but a relationship would be very iffy.
Most younger men who would be interested would be for sexual or exploration reasons only. Young men will pretty much F any women who will allow them to. That doesn't necessarily mean they see you as a LTR. Some might not even know they don't have an attraction or compatibility with older women YET until they actually take time to date one.
And even with ALL of that; I'm still no match for that broke college kid on the basketball team who stands at 6 ft 6 in tall with the perfect young man smile and young man's face to go with it!!! So CLEARLY, the young women that I would be getting are the young women that the broke college jock did not want. That's the reality.
Hehe! Well you won't have much competition then, because that 6'6'' guy with a perfect smile is 1 in 5,000 probably!
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Originally Posted by Firefox87
Hi,
I’m a woman who’s turning 36 in two months.......
At my age, I don’t feel younger or pretty anymore and I know men my age or older fancy younger women.
Although it varies from person to person, in terms of your age, you are still in your prime, albeit getting towards your late prime.
There are indeed a percentage of men that will indeed be looking for someone younger, but there is also a large chunk of men (The ones you want) that will be happy you aren't a shrieking/giggling 20-year-old! If you are dating, it seems you should keep all your options option regarding age of your dates. The best fit for you now could be 26 or 50, it always depends on the individual.
Go for it, but I've gotta warn ya, once you go younger, it might be hard for you to consider older again.
I dated men my age until my early 30s and then started going younger. Married someone 7 years younger.
After my divorce, in my late 30s, I tried dating guys a bit older, 10 years or so and meh. After being with someone 7 years younger, going 10 years older meant a leap of about 17 years in age. It was too big a change physically. It wasn't even about the sex, although that was a big change, too. There I was in my sexual prime, used to a man who could keep up with that, and guys pushing 50, I don't care what they tell you, most cannot keep up with women in their mid to late 30s, when we're in our prime. Not without Viagra, at least. They might at first, but after a couple of months, when the honeymoon wears off, their age starts to show. Nothing wrong with that. It's natural. But if you're in your sexual prime, you might have better nookie with someone who can recharge quickly.
But more than that, it was about them not being able to keep up with me on other things. I wanted to go off and have adventures, see where the night takes us, dinner here, drinks there, maybe dancing, maybe live music, and they all tended to poop out by 11:30 and I was just getting started. It was just a difference in energy level that was too different from that of a younger man. Plus most of them had kids, and that was the last thing I wanted to deal with.
The kid thing is tricky. Be aware that most guys in their 20s don't really think seriously about it. Some do know their minds early on, but in my experience, even if they say they don't want kids, chances are better than 50-50 that they might change their minds someday, so if you know you don't want kids, they're not a good bet for investing your heart. But if you are just looking to date, have fun, etc. go for it. You're coming into your sexual prime. There's no reason not to enjoy that. I feel that the mid to late 30s is a woman's sweet spot, you can pretty much have your pick of decent men, even more than a woman who is 25. That was my experience, at any rate. I mean, sorry, but when I was 25, a 45-year-old hitting on me grossed me out. It just seemed inappropriate, creepy, and predatory--not decent---but both a 27-year-old and a 47-year-old hitting on a 37-year-old isn't so odd, especially if the woman is active, vivacious, and full of energy.
Try it. Life is short. Experience all you can. Have romance and adventure and flings and gorgeous lovers. Take it from an old fart. Next thing you know you'll be 56, like me, with aches and pains and wondering how the heck you ever had that much energy or were ever that randy, but looking back fondly on the memories and feeling glad that you once did.
They may be feeling sentimental. It's likely not real want but nostalgia for a time gone by.
You're smart not to go for it because there would still be something lacking like there was back then. You're not right for eachother.
I have had so many guys come back years later. Just no. If it wasn't right before it won't be right later on. I did give one guy sort of a chance but we were the same people, just 8 years older so I cut it off again.
It's like "as i move back in with mom and have less money i want older women". Strange huh? Idk what hap. When I had lots of money and mansion i liked 20 year olds. Odd.
I am a fit 45 year old man. I prefer younger women.
I think that the reason I didn't want to be with a younger man, is that I'd had enough of men at any age needing their girlfriend or lover or wife to act like a mother figure in their lives. No, I don't want to do your laundry, I don't want to have to cover your car payment or rent because you blew your money on weed or video games. And I was not keen to have any more babies, and younger men often still want to father them.
I am so offended, Sonic_Spork. As a guy, I've never had weed in my life. Video games, you've got me. But I'm still offended that you would assume so.
Guys, young and old, are not looking for a mother figure. No. We are mature and responsible in ways women don't care to understand.
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