Feeling really down on myself and my life (married, man, single)

[zentropa]

Originally Posted by Mandi9

I'm almost 32

Mandi, how old are you really?

In August 2023 you posted:

I have a new boyfriend. He's 29 and I'm 30.

How can you have aged so quickly in 3 months? Or, do you feel that exaggerating or stretching the truth makes your plight seem more...something?

[StuartM1]

Focusing on the past is not the way to resolve this or move forward.

OP,
Give us the deets on yourself:
Gender at birth
Height
Weight
Attractiveness 1-10
# of kids if any
What are you bringing to a relationship
Are you a modern or traditional woman
Political affiliation
Debt level and credit score
Your known red flags if any

We can provide better advice knowing more about your position in the relationship marketplace.

You're going to be fine. It always works out.

[pathrunner]

It's clear that what Mandi needs is to stop posting on social media. Go to therapy, get involved in things she is interested in, develop more patience. Posting on social media does no good without applying sugggestions here and other places online, in conjunction with actual therapy.

[zentropa]

My boyfriend unexpectedly broke up with me a few weeks ago. I don't necessarily miss him.

[Pitt Chick]

Originally Posted by Mandi9

My boyfriend unexpectedly broke up with me a few weeks ago. I don't necessarily miss him. But I'm feeling really down on myself.

Why are you down on yourself when you don't even miss him?
Obviously, he was not the one.


Edited to add: I see someone else quoted the same thing!

[StuartM1]

Originally Posted by pathrunner

It's clear that what Mandi needs is to stop posting on social media. [/i]

Maybe, maybe not. Why not post your questions and issues and situations.

Originally Posted by pathrunner

Go to therapy, .... Posting on social media does no good without applying suggestions here and other places online, in conjunction with actual therapy.

Let's not overstate the effectiveness or importance of 'therapy'. In many cases it's a protracted money grab akin to lawyers' services.

Good online advice and thoughtful referrals to books, articles, sources can offer fast positive effects. Sometimes time is of the essence.

If the OP wants answers, he/she should provide more tangible info/details about himself/herself, not feelingzzz and past situations.

[kgordeeva]

Originally Posted by Pitt Chick

Why are you down on yourself when you don't even miss him?
Obviously, he was not the one.


Edited to add: I see someone else quoted the same thing!

Because it can probably still hurt your ego... even if you're not that huge on the person anymore, you'd probably want to do the breaking up..

[pathrunner]

Originally Posted by StuartM1

Maybe, maybe not. Why not post your questions and issues and situations.

Let's not overstate the effectiveness or importance of 'therapy'. In many cases it's a protracted money grab akin to lawyers' services.

Good online advice and thoughtful referrals to books, articles, sources can offer fast positive effects. Sometimes time is of the essence.

If the OP wants answers, he/she should provide more tangible info/details about himself/herself, not feelingzzz and past situations.

Here's a question for you: Are you familiar with the OP's posting history?

I doubt Mandi will be forthcoming with the answers to your questions.

PS people always diss lawyers until one saves their butt.

[ellie]

Make some new girlfriends. Spend time with them in small groups. Go shopping, get your hair done, go to dinner or out for drinks. Figure out how to have fun.

Your last guy was a loser. Become a single mom with a handsome stranger. Otherwise, there’s hardly time. Take the baby to stay with your family so they can help.

Sorry about the crummy advice.

[Threestep2]

Nothing ever changes in Mandi's world.