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It’s his car but I go home so that someone can walk OUR dog and he’s able to park super close to his building rather than walk 20 minutes because we qualify for a carpool pass TOGETHER. If I didn’t commute with him he wouldn’t qualify for the pass.
It seems like it’s a boyfriend of convenience, to use his car and have a roommate to split the bills with.
I understand that your boyfriend’s research isn’t predictable as to when it’ll end daily. Plus, he might be in an impromptu meeting when you are reaching out to him, right?
If it were me, and I worked at my husband’s work, I’d just plan to keep working at the workplace to ride home together. What I would not do is rely on use of a boyfriend’s car in the way you are. I just don’t think it’s healthy to rely on a boyfriend to the extent you are. I vote get your own car. Also, based on previous threads, this may not be an optimal relationship for you.
He literally is still working and it’s 8 PM. He works till 9 or even 10 some days. He never knows when he’s going to be done.
He literally is still working and it’s 8 PM. He works till 9 or even 10 some days. He never knows when he’s going to be done.
You get what you pay for.
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You have complained about this subject over and over and over.
Get your own car, bicycle, electric bicycle, moped, UBer, rideshare. The man is working and not at your beck and call. It is 8:00. OK. His work schedule. Is dinner in the oven withering away or are you having a hissy fit?
First of all, get your own car or other form of transportation. Then start looking for a place to live, because this guy sounds like he's cheating to me.
Cheating, or at the very least has zero respect and zero consideration for OP.
Communication (lack of) is part of the reason that lead me to separation. So a person who doesn't communicate is not someone I would date seriously. I would express that his lack of communication is being perceived by you as a lack of respect.
In that specific situation, I would have said reach out to me when you are ready to be picked up. Stop putting it on you to initiate the communication all the time.
I agree with most other posters. You have a lot of excuses, want to whine and complain, but won't do a damn thing to stop it. And by "stop it", I mean leave him. And if all of these other great qualities are so great, then you have to accept that he will always be a slob who doesn't communicate well, and doesn't prioritize you. He never will. Accept it and shut up, or leave him.
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