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It's easy for others to say "what's wrong with an hour and a half bus ride?" Because sitting around waiting in the comfort of one's own home is more convenient than taking a bus. She has a pet to get home to. You're exposed to a lot more germs on a bus. What if you have a bad stomach during the commute? I wouldn't take the bus either.
Yes, it is indeed easy to say that because I've done that and more.
I also had petS.
If you have a bad stomach, you shouldn't have gone to work in the first place.
There are germs everywhere. Based on that argument, we shouldn't go outside at all. No restaurants, no stores, no universities, etc, because there are germs all over in those places, as well.
The point is, she can continue to complain and be miserable that her bf won't answer her calls to come pick her up, or she can get on the damn bus and get herself home.
She can hate it on the bus, or she can ruin her relationship by hating that he won't chauffeur her around like she wants. She does not own the car.
Her options are:
1) irritate her bf, and get ticked enough to throw her dirty laundry out there for anyone to see
If you are calling rather than texting and it's just that your boyfriend doesn't interrupt work with phone calls / texts you could get a system going like DH and I do. Call it old school, but both of us are the same way when we are working. We don't check or phones or answer personal calls unless we are expecting a call. What we do if we need to other one to pick up the phone (important communication) is we call and let the phone ring two times, then we hang up, wait one minute, and call again. This lets DH know it is me and I need him to pick up or me know that it is DH and I need him to pick up.
Please note that we do not interrupt each other a bunch when working, so we take that two rings and hang up seriously. We are also considerate of each other as we have dinner together and call if one or the other of us is running later than the expected time. Note: We let each other know ahead of time if we will be working really late. Sometimes, for example I need to do after hours IT implementations, etc. and that might mean working as late as 9 p.m. for those as we have to wait till most users are off for the day to take the system down. These days though I am working from home, so this was all really pre-covid.
Just saying this old school system has worked well for us.
Yes, it is indeed easy to say that because I've done that and more.
I also had petS.
If you have a bad stomach, you shouldn't have gone to work in the first place.
There are germs everywhere. Based on that argument, we shouldn't go outside at all. No restaurants, no stores, no universities, etc, because there are germs all over in those places, as well.
The point is, she can continue to complain and be miserable that her bf won't answer her calls to come pick her up, or she can get on the damn bus and get herself home.
She can hate it on the bus, or she can ruin her relationship by hating that he won't chauffeur her around like she wants. She does not own the car.
Her options are:
1) irritate her bf, and get ticked enough to throw her dirty laundry out there for anyone to see
2) get on the fricken bus already.
I think all of us have gotten an unexpected "bad stomach" and had to go to the bathroom immediately. Wouldn't want to be on a bus.
I think all of us have gotten an unexpected "bad stomach" and had to go to the bathroom immediately. Wouldn't want to be on a bus.
Yeah, but how often does that happen? Like once a year?
If the OP doesn't want to wait, she ride the bus, buy a car, or a bicycle, or an uber.
My DRIVE into town is an hour, and having to take a poop has never been an issue.
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You leave early sometimes to work from home, he stays at work.
Around 5-6 you call him to coordinator the pickup. Except he doesn't answer his phone, which seems odd.
Why wouldn't he want a ride home?
How about waiting for him to call you when he's ready to come home. If it gets real late I can see not wanting to go out. In that case he can get his own ride home if he chooses to stay late.
Bottom line though is this is him.
As Dear Abby used to ask, Are you better of with him or without him?
If With, accept him as is.
If Without, you know what to do.
That's what I was thinking. If he wants a ride, why isn't HE doing the calling? Let him be stranded a time or two and see how he responds.
Not every area of the country has good public transport. It's a 15 minute for me to get home but 1.5 hours via bus requiring two transfers.
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