Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
My boyfriend and I have been together for two years. We share a car, it's his, and we are in graduate school. We're PhD students so it's more like a regular job. We get to work between 9 & 10 and sometimes I want to leave earlier than 5 and just work from home, so I do, and then I come pick him up when he calls.
However, some days I need to stay until 5 or 6, and then I will be calling him, and he just won't be answering. This happens FREQUENTLY. Now I recognize sharing a car makes this difficult and puts us in a unique situation, but surely there will be other situations in life where I really need him to answer the phone and communicate with me. I just don't feel like a priority to him, how could you not answer your phone for two hours? You know it's 5 PM, end of the work day, at least have the courtesy of responding to my text! If he wants to stay a few more hours that's fine, but I could at least go home! If he wants to stay 30 more minutes, then I'll wait it out. Why doesn't he think it's a priority to communicate with me??
There are so many wonderful aspects of our relationship and I really love him, but in moments like this I feel so unloved by him and like I'm not a priority at all. Like, just answer the phone! Communicate with me! I am in this situation multiple times a week and I have begged him to just keep his phone with him on vibrate so he can communicate with me. Sometimes I feel so angry in these moments that I just want to pack my bags and leave and never see him again!
Help! Advice? What do I do? How do I solve my problem here??
I will be calling him, and he just won't be answering. This happens FREQUENTLY...I just don't feel like a priority to him, how could you not answer your phone for two hours?
...
I just want to pack my bags and leave and never see him again!
First of all, get your own car or other form of transportation. Then start looking for a place to live, because this guy sounds like he's cheating to me.
First of all, get your own car or other form of transportation. Then start looking for a place to live, because this guy sounds like he's cheating to me.
He’s not cheating. He’s ****ing around with chemistry equipment. We’re saving for a house and the shared car gets me where I need to go.
WHAT keeps you hanging on to a lousy boyfriend? Is it being financially dependent on him? I mean...if that's it, I get it. You're both down to one car (but you could probably find yourself a decent used car, if you really wanted to.) And surely you could find a room mate, if you can't afford housing. I'm assuming you're in a college town...there's probably a lot of housing options.
Or are you afraid no one else wants you? I guess you'll never know if you don't decide you're worth better treatment.
My boyfriend and I have been together for two years. We share a car, it's his, and we are in graduate school. We're PhD students so it's more like a regular job. We get to work between 9 & 10 and sometimes I want to leave earlier than 5 and just work from home, so I do, and then I come pick him up when he calls.
However, some days I need to stay until 5 or 6, and then I will be calling him, and he just won't be answering. This happens FREQUENTLY. Now I recognize sharing a car makes this difficult and puts us in a unique situation, but surely there will be other situations in life where I really need him to answer the phone and communicate with me. I just don't feel like a priority to him, how could you not answer your phone for two hours? You know it's 5 PM, end of the work day, at least have the courtesy of responding to my text! If he wants to stay a few more hours that's fine, but I could at least go home! If he wants to stay 30 more minutes, then I'll wait it out. Why doesn't he think it's a priority to communicate with me??
There are so many wonderful aspects of our relationship and I really love him, but in moments like this I feel so unloved by him and like I'm not a priority at all. Like, just answer the phone! Communicate with me! I am in this situation multiple times a week and I have begged him to just keep his phone with him on vibrate so he can communicate with me. Sometimes I feel so angry in these moments that I just want to pack my bags and leave and never see him again!
Help! Advice? What do I do? How do I solve my problem here??
Have you considered getting your own vehicle? He may be feeling overwhelmed by your neediness? I think it is a situation that needs to be resolved by you, because you have the need. Sorry if I sound a bit tough. But even in marriage you'll have to solve situations at times that are based on your own needs. Take care.
Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. It is free and quick. Over $68,000 in prizes has already been given out to active posters on our forum. Additional giveaways are planned.
Detailed information about all U.S. cities, counties, and zip codes on our site: City-data.com.
Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
