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Thats the worst part. He'll call me and say he's ready to be picked up and then I'll get there and call him over and over again, waiting in the parking lot for 20-30 minutes. And he won't even apologize when he gets in the car. "I didn't hear the phone ring."
Then leave. You sit there for 10-15 minutes with no communication, go home. "I thought you must have gotten a ride, because surely you would have been waiting for my text."
So I purchase a second car, which will be like all my money and I'll have to dip into my savings. Then, my walk to my building will be 30 minutes rather than 15 since we won't be able to use the carpool lot. Not to mention I'll owe $500 for a new parking pass. Then, we might break up anyways, and then I'll have to move into my own apartment, doubling my rent costs, and I'll have the unnecessary expense of a car that I don't need since I'll just move close to campus. Buying a car makes no sense. We don't have to live where we currently do.
1. Break up with him. He doesn’t value you.
2. Find a place that has public transit where you can keep your pit bull, unless you want to let boyfriend keep the pit bull.
3. You will be over him by the time you move. You’re only together for convenience anyway.
So I purchase a second car, which will be like all my money and I'll have to dip into my savings. Then, my walk to my building will be 30 minutes rather than 15 since we won't be able to use the carpool lot. Not to mention I'll owe $500 for a new parking pass. Then, we might break up anyways, and then I'll have to move into my own apartment, doubling my rent costs, and I'll have the unnecessary expense of a car that I don't need since I'll just move close to campus. Buying a car makes no sense. We don't have to live where we currently do.
Well, if you're counting on breaking up, this conversation is moot. Maybe that's the answer. Or you could try doing to him what he does to you and if he texts you, just ignore him. Maybe that will get his attention. It sounds to me that he just doesn't care anymore but I could be wrong.
There's no reason I should have to do this. We don't have to live where we live. He doesn't want to move because he likes our house. I want to move.
There's 'no reason'? Really?
Here's your reason: If you truly care to keep your relationship going, then you're going to have to stop complaining that everything isn't going your way, and find a way to get yourself home. You are not entitled to the use of his car.
Oh well, you have to wait for the bus and transfer to another bus. Do you have any idea just how many people do this, daily?
It's not all about you, but the fact that you insist he should be answering your calls to drive you places, the fact that you think he needs to want to move shows me that you care little about him and his wants. If he isn't answering the phone, it's pretty obvious that he doesn't want to answer the phone. You haven't made that connection yet?
He calls you to pick him up when he's been charitable enough to lend you his car, and because he's not standing there in the parking lot, and you have to wait 20 minutes, you find another reason to complain.
When do you stop complaining and instead be thankful and grateful that you even have use of someone elses car, at times. That you have a place to live, when too many don't. That you have someone to help you pay the bills...which makes me wonder, are you using this person to live cheaply and sometimes use of a car that you don't own, because it doesn't seem that you really care what he thinks or wants. This all comes across as if it's all about you.
Well, it's not. There are 2 people in this relationship, and guess what. You are not going to always get what you want. There's another person there who also has wants. Keep dismissing what they want, and watch what happens.
You can get over it and find ways to get yourself home.
You can keep complaining about everything and find yourself alone.
The audacity to state, 'I shouldn't have to do that'...well, maybe if you stopped complaining and acting entitled about everything, the other person would be more likely to want to do some of the things you want.
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