how do you feel about gift giving in relationships (female, Latin, clothes)
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I heard a sayings once that said, Women would rather have a rose once a month then a dozen once a year
Same things the last few posts, it's the thought behind it that counts.
Yes consistency, its that what have you done for me lately thing.
My gift giving policy goes as thus. I like to call this the "10 Gift Commandments"
1: I do not give gifts to reciprocate. Meaning you should not expect a gift in return just because you gave me one.
2: I do not give gifts out of order with current financial status. In other words, if I'm broke, or near broke, and I have a choice of a tank of gas or a gift for you...guess what?
3: I do not give gifts based on holiday obligation. In other words, you might get a Christmas gift...or you might not.
4: I do not (always) give gifts that cost money. In other words, my gift might be a poem I wrote (don't write anymore), or something else.
5: I do not give gifts out of order of current relationship status. In other words, if you're just a male friend, you'd be lucky to get a card. If you're a female friend, you're lucky to get a gift card. If we're dating, that's when the special stuff happens.
6: I do not give gifts in short order of the commencement of the relationship. In other words, if we hook up a week before your birthday, do not expect a gift.
7: I do not succumb to pressure for a gift. If we're at the mall, you can drool over that necklace all you want...doesn't mean you're getting it, and likely you won't unless we're soon to be married, and even then, don't expect me to drop half a 10 pack on you ($5000).
8: I do not wrap gifts. Sorry, I do my part for the environment. If it's a surprise, I have my ways.
9: I do not give gift receipts. You will not be allowed to return a gift I give you. Take it, like it. Don't care if you give it to family or friends...but you're not getting my cash.
And...the most important rule...
10: If I give you a gift, and we break up, I WILL take it back. I gave a girl a four leaf clover encased in glass from RedEnvelope once. She started arguing with me about everything, then lied about being single. Better believe I snatched that bad boy right back and gave it to a better female. Same with that gold-dipped rose I once gave a female.
My gift giving policy goes as thus. I like to call this the "10 Gift Commandments"
1: I do not give gifts to reciprocate. Meaning you should not expect a gift in return just because you gave me one.
2: I do not give gifts out of order with current financial status. In other words, if I'm broke, or near broke, and I have a choice of a tank of gas or a gift for you...guess what?
3: I do not give gifts based on holiday obligation. In other words, you might get a Christmas gift...or you might not.
4: I do not (always) give gifts that cost money. In other words, my gift might be a poem I wrote (don't write anymore), or something else.
5: I do not give gifts out of order of current relationship status. In other words, if you're just a male friend, you'd be lucky to get a card. If you're a female friend, you're lucky to get a gift card. If we're dating, that's when the special stuff happens.
6: I do not give gifts in short order of the commencement of the relationship. In other words, if we hook up a week before your birthday, do not expect a gift.
7: I do not succumb to pressure for a gift. If we're at the mall, you can drool over that necklace all you want...doesn't mean you're getting it, and likely you won't unless we're soon to be married, and even then, don't expect me to drop half a 10 pack on you ($5000).
8: I do not wrap gifts. Sorry, I do my part for the environment. If it's a surprise, I have my ways.
9: I do not give gift receipts. You will not be allowed to return a gift I give you. Take it, like it. Don't care if you give it to family or friends...but you're not getting my cash.
And...the most important rule...
10: If I give you a gift, and we break up, I WILL take it back. I gave a girl a four leaf clover encased in glass from RedEnvelope once. She started arguing with me about everything, then lied about being single. Better believe I snatched that bad boy right back and gave it to a better female. Same with that gold-dipped rose I once gave a female.
I feel so happy and fortunate to have never met people like you. Hope I never do. Not that they'll be around for long even if they somehow cross my path...
I feel so happy and fortunate to have never met people like you. Hope I never do. Not that they'll be around for long even if they somehow cross my path...
Why? Because I'm honest and don't put myself out for those that don't deserve it? Because I have a different opinion about gift giving than the general public? Because I feel that gifts are earned, not entitled?
The best scenario is if both people can agree to a spending limit. Then the challenge won't be "Will I outspend her", which is silly IMO, but the challenge will be who'll be more creative and know what will make the other person really smile.
I'll give you a quick example. Not even by me. One of my friends is going out w/ a girl and both of them are into the movie "Office Space". She's probably more into it than him. But in that movie, there's a cute red stapler. So he searched around and found a very similar stapler to the movie and gave it to her as a gift. Was it expensive? No. Was it thoughtful? Hell yes.
The best scenario is if both people can agree to a spending limit. Then the challenge won't be "Will I outspend her", which is silly IMO, but the challenge will be who'll be more creative and know what will make the other person really smile.
I'll give you a quick example. Not even by me. One of my friends is going out w/ a girl and both of them are into the movie "Office Space". She's probably more into it than him. But in that movie, there's a cute red stapler. So he searched around and found a very similar stapler to the movie and gave it to her as a gift. Was it expensive? No. Was it thoughtful? Hell yes.
Precisely what we're talking about! It's not about money; it's about being a cold-hearted and calculating bastard.
I personally don't care for your "limits," but it's an OK approach. In my book if one can afford more or feels like giving more, there's nothing wrong with it.
Precisely what we're talking about! It's not about money; it's about being a cold-hearted and calculating bastard.
I personally don't care for your "limits," but it's an OK approach. In my book if one can afford more or feels like giving more, there's nothing wrong with it.
I didn't read any of the replies except some of the ones on the 4th page, including the 10 Commandments.
So who is the cold-hearted calculating bastard? I probably didn't read that post.
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