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Originally Posted by Threestep2
How old are you?
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43 (He and I are about the same age)
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Originally Posted by fleetiebelle
I know this is the Romantic Relationships forum, but in what universe is putting up with this guy's negging and red flags better than being alone?
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I wasn't really "alone" when I met him. I reconnected in Dec with a guy I dated before, but stopped talking to him because this guy made me feel guilty that I had "simps" and reserves. He thinks it's slutty for a girl to be talking to more than one guy.
I guess there is a "disconnect" (?) or my brain is confused because when you look at him and hear him talk, you would never ever imagine that he has a temper, degradation kink or ever hit a woman.
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Originally Posted by Mikala43
I meant both of you. The fact you are still interacting with the guy is a huge red flag on you. Honestly, you may be scammed with this guy. He's already figured out he can say anything to you and you'll take it.
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yes, something is definitely wrong with me
I don't think he is a scammer though (for money?) We have common friends and his family has money. I think another red flag is he doesn't really work? He studied in a prestigious school in our country but he dropped out. He gets funding from his Dad and his day consists of working out/playing tennis, video games, monitoring stocks, going out and talking/chatting with me.
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Originally Posted by E-Twist
What would you tell a friend or a sister to do if she was in your situation with this guy? If your answer is he sounds wonderful, go for it - then go for it. Give him everything he wants. If your answer is this man is not acting respectfully, cease contact - then do that.
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I will tell my friend or sister to run for the hills.
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Originally Posted by Ceira
I had to look it up:
A form of torture/punishment in which the victim is held upside down over a toilet, with his head in the toilet bowl, while it is flushed.
Please OP, have some respect for yourself and BLOCK this person. Today!
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It was so disgusting
He also likes choking and told him I don't like that because I don't wanna risk dying (he's a tall lean guy) He never mentioned it again though.
Lately, he has been acting so calm and balanced and telling me that I am so obsessed with him and acting crazy?
I really appreciate everyone's concern. I know now that I should never consider a relationship with him.