Married and faithful? or Married b/c you got pregnant?

[Torn2pieces]

I'm in my 30's and remain faithful.....

I know a few people who got pregnant and stayed in a happy relationship....

It all depends on the person/relationship. I don't think age really has to do with anything. Although, many 20 and 30 year olds can be very immature...

[CityGirl72]

I too am confused - what does being pregnant to be married have to do with being faithful

Alot of times if a couple get together for pregnancy it won't work - but that doesn't mean it couldn't

And alot of times (although not everytime) a couple could marry young for just marriage, but when they hit their 30s or 40s wonder what else is out there - what did they miss? And have an affair - notice how that doesn't have anything to do with being pregnant?

[arod0331]

Late 20's and faithful to my spouse.

[flosty]

I've been married for 20 years, since I was 19 years old. I've never cheated, not once.

[fjtee]

I'm going to be the A-hole here. Why don't you try keeping better company? Sure, cheating occurs throughout all segments of society, but most of my friends didn't have shotgun weddings and don't cheat on their spouses.

[whimsicalmitch]

Well i am not married yet but. My boyfriend is very faithful to me, and he complies with everything i tell him and vise versa we have very good communication, and are similar to one another with it comes to jelousy, we love each other very much, and i want to marry him, and he wants to marry me, the only thing is that we are still young, and we are both still virgins because we agreed on waiting for marriage, we are sexually active with each other and do everything But sex. His conscious is very strong, this man will tell me about any woman that talks to him or if someone tried to flirt with him, and if he thinks he might have done something wrong, from accidentally tripping and touching someones elbow to a strange dream because if he doesn't his conscious kicks in, and before it does, he tells me,he is very honest with me and straightforward. from the beginning of the relationship, he told me he would not keep any secrets from me. and he doesn't. when he sees me cry about anything, he always looks so sad for a sec and then he does anything to make me happy. and once im smiling and cheerful again he will tell me, that he hates seeing me sad, and he tells me in the most loving voice that he could never hurt me. and i believe him. I am very lucky to get one a good man. he doesnt even look other women. and he doesnt look at porn either. he gave everything up for me. thats how i know he is Faithful to me. Although i am around a couple of women that had children young and got married because of it young. they are not happy. i know because i can still see their husbands looking at any attractive woman that walks by. not all men are like that, and its applies for girls too, ive seen married women want other men. Its only because they did not marry out of love, they married because they thought thats what they should do. of course if you have a child its good to have both mother and father together to raise kid. but a child and marriage are two diffrent things that should not be mixed together. i dont care what anyone says. only if you absolutley love that man or woman regardless of the child THEN u should marry. if anyone ever divorces or cheats because the 'Love' went away, i think was not in love, but they cared alot extremley alot at some point in their relationships for the other person. Marriage should never be rushed no matter the circumstance because doing something you are not ready for will open doors for many mistakes, especially if there is little communication.

[Mooseketeer]

Yep another vote for Faithful. Pretty darn sure Hubby is and always has been too. Though I am sure I will be told I am living in Fairyland by some cynics.

I never cheated on anyone in any relationships I ever had when I was still single and dating.

Cheating for me is the most contemptible and cowardly thing one can do. If I want to play around and no longer want my Husband I will be a big girl and leave my Husband. I will wait AFTER I have left him to sleep with someone else. It would be a point of honour to me.

[andreaspercheron]

A co-worker and I had this same conversation the other day because he's been married twice, both women cheated and he's convinced that there are NO couples who are either not actively cheating or who have not in the past cheated to which I argued that I know plenty of happy couples who have been very loyal (including myself) in their relationship. So you're not the only person who thinks this way.

On the flip side, I will say this about it; this is the day and age of EASY access to anything and anyone on the internet. You plug in a key word and voila! You are there in a split second (unless you have dial up LOL). But seriously, sure it's easier to I guess get away with something but moreso, I think morals have taken a back seat in recent history and who knows why - there could be and probably are so many reasons why couples do what they do.

In regards to people getting married because they got preggers. I would somewhat agree. I don't find very often that people just get married because they fell in love. I feel like they got pregnant and then rushed into marriage which is obviously not always the right thing to do. I work for a miltary installation and I see very young people meet and a few months later they are either engaged to get married or they are rushing into marriage because they got their partner pregnant. IMO, I don't see many of those relationships lasting. They don't know each other, they haven't even begun to realize the reality of life yet and a host of other issues that will come up in their young lives... and of course then they divorce and all of a sudden the person you married whom you hardly knew is the biggest piece of crap on the planet... yes, seen it many times.

People should date for a long time, live together a long time and then if they want to get married GREAT but if not, don't. And, use protection for God's sake LOL.

[loser for ever]

I have been faithbul, but I agree most people answer this question with so much reservations. so if you are a woman that has opportunities to cheat (as much as your husband has), would you cheat? that can be through work, outings, computer?
We got married because I was pregnant. he asked me to drop the child during preg, but I declined, so he told me we must get married then, and we did. Side note, we dated for 8 years, and we were together bc of boredom, both being from big cities, and stuck in a small town due to our carriers and education, we were kind of stuck to gether. at first, I thought i loved him, but when he told me his feelings about me: he didnt have time to look around, I was the easy option, it was working for then, and so on, made me rethink the whole thing. I couldnt get mad at him by telling me all that truth, since I felt just the same for him. we are married, and we dont love each other, we are an amazing parent. I dont believe in divorce. but let me tell you, living with a man whom you know how you feel about and you know how he feels about you, is absolute mysery. we talk 5 min in 24 hrs, we both work full time. no bragging, you dont even know me! I am a very attractive woman, and at work, I do get signals, but dont have the guts to do it, I am affraid that I will fall in love with the person and then decide to leave my husband. I dont know wether he is faithful or not, and i sincerely dont care, as long as we dont argue, and we stay under the same roof. now the sad part is I do want my child to have ciblings, and how could I bring another life to this world, knowing how I feel about my husband, on the same page, I must be a very selfish mom that I dont want to sacrifice so my son could have siblings. I have come to conclude, my husband was right, when he suggested to me to drop my son (during pregnancy) I should have done it I love my boy, he is the biggest joy that I could ask for.

[Chowhound]

I'm a bastard.

I just found this out a few yrs ago, when my mom died, I found her paperwork that indicated that she was basically preggers when they got married.


Its cool, happens a lot.