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Often times what is troublesome to me on a post will correspond to something that is going on in my personal life, so there is some vulnerability there that gets rubbed raw. In the bigger picture though, these charged areas can help me try to figure out what is going on for me and how to address it, which is helpful in the long run.
yup, same for me...adding, while I might not agree at first, I'll walk away thinking about it...and can apply it to my life...there is so much to learn from the points others bring out or stimulate in my mind...
one thing I do hate with a passion, is when your going along fine, and someone comes in and throws one liner condiscending jokes at you...whereas they pretend to be your friend, but are literally tearing you a new one...why? I dunno...but there are some people who simply love to antagonise, guess they get off on it? Sure is sadistic to me..? hey, maybe it's me?
But if you disagree with them, they take it as a personal attack against their character, instead of realizing, it's what you think and believe and has nothing actually to do with them....I suppose it's insecurity on their part...and youth, as well...I can remember being like that years ago...
yup, same for me...adding, while I might not agree at first, I'll walk away thinking about it...and can apply it to my life...there is so much to learn from the points others bring out or stimulate in my mind...
one thing I do hate with a passion, is when your going along fine, and someone comes in and throws one liner condiscending jokes at you...whereas they pretend to be your friend, but are literally tearing you a new one...why? I dunno...but there are some people who simply love to antagonise, guess they get off on it? Sure is sadistic to me..? hey, maybe it's me?
But if you disagree with them, they take it as a personal attack against their character, instead of realizing, it's what you think and believe and has nothing actually to do with them....I suppose it's insecurity on their part...and youth, as well...I can remember being like that years ago...
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I suppose your right, jokes tend to trivialize the persons post before you and at other times it is an ice breaker. I guess in order to get a just view of things at all times you would have to be two people and thats not possible. Still if someone builds a rep doing that then it would probably be a safe guess that its who they are.
I suppose your right, jokes tend to trivialize the persons post before you and at other times it is an ice breaker. I guess in order to get a just view of things at all times you would have to be two people and thats not possible. Still if someone builds a rep doing that then it would probably be a safe guess that its who they are.
ahhh yes, absolutely, but you can also tell those one liner sarcastic jokes which is gaining them attention from their buddies....they are not to difficult to spot...and these same people are very vindictive...they get even, in other posts....but yes, there have been times when a while back, when I first started posting in forums, people would have to remind me they were kidding...and when I went back and read it again...realized how foolish I was being...but there is a big difference....you can always tell how quickly their buds fly in to gang up....it is very obvious...it's a deliberate mock...not a joke at all....but you shrug it off and consider the source, and after a while, if it happens to many times, I know the person is simply trying to gain attention at someone else's expense, so I will avoid them whenever possible.
It takes a while, but you know who the kind and caring ones are. And the ones who take everything that is written personal...and quickly defend themselves or ask, when did I say that? And the poster never had them in mind at all when they wrote their post....
I take nothing on these boards seriously. No one here has a personal knowledge of me, my life, my thoughts, etc., therefore, I take nothing personally. Anyone who does has no business posting on a public forum, IMO. I've discovered that those who are self-righteous and quick to judge other people, not the issue at hand, are those who are the most easily offended. Go figure! They can dish it out pretty well, but cannot take it. It's these people who make these boards the most interesting and entertaining, though!
And, you've got to be f'ng kidding me, if you actually believe that the way a person comes across on the internet is the same IRL! You may get bits of personality coming through, but there's always more to that person. Give me a f'ng break!
And, you've got to be f'ng kidding me, if you actually believe that the way a person comes across on the internet is the same IRL! You may get bits of personality coming through, but there's always more to that person. Give me a f'ng break!
I am the same person if i am speaking to you in person or over the net,why would there be a difference?
I am the same person if i am speaking to you in person or over the net,why would there be a difference?
Nuance. There's a whole host of communication that takes place in person that one doesn't see in a message board. Tone of voice, facial expression, inflection, all add meaning to the discussion at hand.
Case in point? I tend to speak plainly, but almost never tick people off in person. I just say what's on my mind, but do it in a way that doesn't cause offense. My wife says I have a knack for saying what other people can't. But on here, it can definitely come off the wrong way.
Nuance. There's a whole host of communication that takes place in person that one doesn't see in a message board. Tone of voice, facial expression, inflection, all add meaning to the discussion at hand.
Case in point? I tend to speak plainly, but almost never tick people off in person. I just say what's on my mind, but do it in a way that doesn't cause offense. My wife says I have a knack for saying what other people can't. But on here, it can definitely come off the wrong way.
nuance maybe,emoticons help.But personality and thought wise I am who I am and overall I like who I am so I have no need for a alter-ego.
nuance maybe,emoticons help.But personality and thought wise I am who I am and overall I like who I am so I have no need for a alter-ego.
Does the phrase, "It's not what you say...it's how you say it" ring a bell?
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