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mind first, then eyes, then heart, then body. Those are the order i go through when finding a woman. If she's a knucklehead, she failed step one. In other words, these steps save me from having falling for the wrong person.
I used these with my girlfriend and i couldn't have found a better person for me. I didn't let my heart and second head think this time. I used logic and attraction to decide if i should stay with her.
For me the whole "butterfly" and fireworks thing is for puppy love and not something serious.
mind first, then eyes, then heart, then body. Those are the order i go through when finding a woman. If she's a knucklehead, she failed step one. In other words, these steps save me from having falling for the wrong person.
I used these with my girlfriend and i couldn't have found a better person for me. I didn't let my heart and second head think this time. I used logic and attraction to decide if i should stay with her.
For me the whole "butterfly" and fireworks thing is for puppy love and not something serious.
I agree! This is how my current boyfriend and I approached our relationship which started out as a purely platonic friendship. And once we got to the romantic stuff, there were plenty of fireworks! Five years later, we still have plenty of fireworks accompanied by periods of deep steady affection for each other. The lovemaking is awesome and we enjoy each other's company doing other activities.
My boyfriend would never date a "knucklehead" no matter how beautiful she was. And I feel the exact same way about dating men.
Why do people "fall out" of love so quickly? My last relationship lasted about a year and we broke off after that. She said she had "fallen out" of love. This was the same person that told me when we met that she hasn't felt this much chemistry with anyone before. How can such a thing happen? This is what scares me and every person I date I guess I am now very cynical of their intentions which I know is a bad thing. I was pretty much the same person throughout this relationship so I was just very surprised why things changed. I'm still trying to figure out why people fall out of love.
People talk about this electric feeling that you are supposed to feel, this intensity, butterflies in your stomach etc. but frankly I have not felt such a thing for anyone so far. Infact, in the initial stages of dating I just have a friendship and the deep attachment occurs much later...but even so, I have never been totally overwhelmed by a person so far. It seems many expect that they need to feel that instant chemistry and the surreal feeling. Many people have told me that they are not willing to "settle" for anything less than this feeling of total awe.
So my question... when you meet the right person are you supposed to be overcome with emotions, butterflies in your stomach etc.? If you don't feel this can you conclude right away that it is not the right person? And when are you supposed to feel like this...after the first date? second date??
I think it's natural for people to get bored with each other after awhile...that's why there are so many fish in the sea I guess
As far as having those feelings in the beginning,perhaps subconsciously you're afraid of getting let down again. But most likely as you're getting older you're becoming more discriminating as to what you're attracted to and you're just not getting those feelings as often.
my partner of ten years fell in love with someone else and left me for them . but my partner has had 9 relationshipes some long term 14 years 6 years 7 years 2 years and ten with me and a few flings and now her new partner is 23 years younger do you thinkit will last after the lust wears off ?????
my partner of ten years fell in love with someone else and left me for them . but my partner has had 9 relationshipes some long term 14 years 6 years 7 years 2 years and ten with me and a few flings and now her new partner is 23 years younger do you thinkit will last after the lust wears off ?????
How old is your former partner? Given their relationship track record, it's very likely that their current relationship won't last beyond 10 years.
Why do people "fall out" of love so quickly? My last relationship lasted about a year and we broke off after that. She said she had "fallen out" of love. This was the same person that told me when we met that she hasn't felt this much chemistry with anyone before. How can such a thing happen? This is what scares me and every person I date I guess I am now very cynical of their intentions which I know is a bad thing. I was pretty much the same person throughout this relationship so I was just very surprised why things changed. I'm still trying to figure out why people fall out of love.
People talk about this electric feeling that you are supposed to feel, this intensity, butterflies in your stomach etc. but frankly I have not felt such a thing for anyone so far. Infact, in the initial stages of dating I just have a friendship and the deep attachment occurs much later...but even so, I have never been totally overwhelmed by a person so far. It seems many expect that they need to feel that instant chemistry and the surreal feeling. Many people have told me that they are not willing to "settle" for anything less than this feeling of total awe.
So my question... when you meet the right person are you supposed to be overcome with emotions, butterflies in your stomach etc.? If you don't feel this can you conclude right away that it is not the right person? And when are you supposed to feel like this...after the first date? second date??
When I met the right woman I did feel that and then some more. Actually I felt it right away when I first saw her, although I realize that's not always the case. Unfortunately we didn't end up together, but that's another story.
. Many people have told me that they are not willing to "settle" for anything less than this feeling of total awe.
So my question... when you meet the right person are you supposed to be overcome with emotions, butterflies in your stomach etc.? If you don't feel this can you conclude right away that it is not the right person? And when are you supposed to feel like this...after the first date? second date??
Anyone who's told you that they won't settle for any less than "this feeling of total awe"...could easily be looking for-ever.....When I met my "right person"I was certainly NOT overcome with emotions...and the "butterfly feeling" was just the anticipation of bedding with said partner....I feel that people confuse falling in love with feeling strongly attracted to...but falling and being in love is something that happens when your partner proves themselves to be faithful, respectfull,and curteous when with you...someone who cares about ALL of you..emotionally/physically....that's true love, and it never dies.
Anyone who's told you that they won't settle for any less than "this feeling of total awe"...could easily be looking for-ever.....When I met my "right person"I was certainly NOT overcome with emotions...and the "butterfly feeling" was just the anticipation of bedding with said partner....I feel that people confuse falling in love with feeling strongly attracted to...but falling and being in love is something that happens when your partner proves themselves to be faithful, respectfull,and curteous when with you...someone who cares about ALL of you..emotionally/physically....that's true love, and it never dies.
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