Ladies, choosing partners when you are single with child/children (looking, relations)
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I'm recently separated and refuse to date while the kids are still home. There's just something unsettling about having a man around when I will have a teenage daughter in the house. I just don't think it's appropriate.
I'm recently separated and refuse to date while the kids are still home. There's just something unsettling about having a man around when I will have a teenage daughter in the house. I just don't think it's appropriate.
Does this mean you won't date at all or that you won't have him over to your house?
I will have gals come over, just no sleep-overs. However, getting a sitter and going over to their house for the evening for cuddling and whatever else might occur doesn't expose the kids to anything.
Does this mean you won't date at all or that you won't have him over to your house?
I will have gals come over, just no sleep-overs. However, getting a sitter and going over to their house for the evening for cuddling and whatever else might occur doesn't expose the kids to anything.
I don't think I should be dating at all. What would I have to offer someone when I'm not willing to commit seriously?
A woman with children wouldn't get near to me at all.
I would feel the same way. Both men and women share this opinion and it's not wrong. Things get too complicated when you have children. Either you're going to focus on your kids or a new man. There will always be animosity between the two.
My son does not meet my dates ever, unless it becomes a serious long-term thing. If I don't know them well enough to know whether or not he will be in my future, no way will I involve him in my son's. He was 12 before I even started dating.
Last edited by ChessieMom; 10-31-2008 at 10:33 AM..
I can't sit here and say that I've ever done and official background check on anyone since becoming a mom. In the same sense before meeting the man I've been with for years (post childrens father) I didn't do a whole lot of dating at all. It was hard enough allowing my children to daycare and eventually schools, when they were younger. This world is just a messed up place altogether.
In Julia's defense, I don't think she got with the young man thinking he would ever harm her son or her brother or her mother. Yes the man had a record, but maybe she overlooked it because of the circumstances! This whole case is suspicious to me.
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Originally Posted by Raggy dee Ann
I was thinking about Jennifer Hudson and her family last night and it got me thinking about choosing who we associate with especially single women with children. In an age when people are meeting online how do you ladies with children protect yourselves and family from the nuts and undesirables out there. Do you do back ground checks on men you have plans on introducing to your kids? Is it something you worry about?
Jennifers sister Julia met this loser knowing he was a felon with a rap sheet that included attempted murder.
After all the stuff I found out about my ex- (after we were married with children), I'm tempted to run a check on anyone before the first date. You just never know. A person could be from a good family with awesome roots and nothing suspicious and have a lot of skeletons in the closet.
I don't think I should be dating at all. What would I have to offer someone when I'm not willing to commit seriously?
People date for a variety of reasons, then there are activity partners etc. a whole variety of options out there. Whatever you feel comfortable with is certainly up to you.
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