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I had a major fling with this guy and we fell in love. At the beginning, we had the same mutal feelings for each. There were some complications and he was the one that ended things and called it quits on us.
I was deeply hurt by him and my heart was left very scarred up. The experience has traumatized me as it was so painful, it has changed me as a person, I don't allow people into my life as easily as that eliminates the possibility of enduring this kind of agony again. I still hold the wound and is trying extremely hard to erase him from my mind. I have not been successful thus far.
After things ended, we kept seeing each other occasionally afterwards but it had turned into more of a sexual relationship at that point.
Five weeks ago, we saw each other for the very last time and ended up in bed. (He did not know it was going to be the last time.) I never bothered to tell him as I felt he didn`t need to know. I made a promise to myself that it was going to be the last time that you are going to see him. I bit my lip hard and tried to closed that painful chapter of my life. I felt I desperately needed to put things behind me even though he still held a huge part of my heart. After that night, we have not talked to each other because I didnt want a relationship with him that was only based on sex anymore. I stop all forms of communication with him.
Then five weeks down the road from the last time we saw each other, he texted me and asked if "everything was good?". I was thrown off by it because:
A) My initial thought was he's probably only interested in wanting to know if I am pregnant or not from the last time we ended up sleeping together.
B) I was very shocked to hear from him again
C) Since we haven't talked for almost a month and a half, I thought the end had been reached for us finally. In some ways, knowing that I wasn't going to hear from him again gave me a slight bit of relief because I know he can't cause me anymore pain.
The next night I messaged him asking if he messaged because he was wanting to find out if I was pregnant or not. His reply was "No, it's just that I haven't heard from you in a bit. That's all."
What does he want from me?
Why make contact again after so long?
Some of my friends are saying that he may want to pick up where things were left off? How do I ask him about his feelings in a subtle way?
I really want to move forward and not fall back into painful territory, how do I prevent from being hurt by him again?
Can we ever be friends? Would it be a normal friendship?
Maybe he is trying to find out if you're pregnant or not, but there is nothing wrong with that since you slept with each other. I'm confused with you! I'm not sure what's going on because I'm not sure if this is the whole story or just parts of it, but I would leave it alone if you wanted it to end.
You slept with this guy for how many number of times....and afterwards you wonder if you could be friends with him. Yea. You're confuse enough to need to get some counseling.
Then later, you would only have occasional flings (just sexual visits)
Then you broke it off (by ending all communications)
So how did he know this ended? You made it sound like you
two were only seeing each other occasionally anyhow.
He just might of thought you were just taking a longer break.
Anyhow look you obviously are still in love with him.
So the only way to get over him is to get away from him.
So if you are going to do this anyway, then why don't you just tell him how you feel.
What have you got to lose ?
Whats the worst thing that can happen ?
Get your heart broken, It already is remember.
I had a major fling with this guy and we fell in love. At the beginning, we had the same mutal feelings for each. There were some complications and he was the one that ended things and called it quits on us.
I was deeply hurt by him and my heart was left very scarred up. The experience has traumatized me as it was so painful, it has changed me as a person, I don't allow people into my life as easily as that eliminates the possibility of enduring this kind of agony again. I still hold the wound and is trying extremely hard to erase him from my mind. I have not been successful thus far.
After things ended, we kept seeing each other occasionally afterwards but it had turned into more of a sexual relationship at that point.
Five weeks ago, we saw each other for the very last time and ended up in bed. (He did not know it was going to be the last time.) I never bothered to tell him as I felt he didn`t need to know. I made a promise to myself that it was going to be the last time that you are going to see him. I bit my lip hard and tried to closed that painful chapter of my life. I felt I desperately needed to put things behind me even though he still held a huge part of my heart. After that night, we have not talked to each other because I didnt want a relationship with him that was only based on sex anymore. I stop all forms of communication with him.
Then five weeks down the road from the last time we saw each other, he texted me and asked if "everything was good?". I was thrown off by it because:
A) My initial thought was he's probably only interested in wanting to know if I am pregnant or not from the last time we ended up sleeping together.
B) I was very shocked to hear from him again
C) Since we haven't talked for almost a month and a half, I thought the end had been reached for us finally. In some ways, knowing that I wasn't going to hear from him again gave me a slight bit of relief because I know he can't cause me anymore pain.
The next night I messaged him asking if he messaged because he was wanting to find out if I was pregnant or not. His reply was "No, it's just that I haven't heard from you in a bit. That's all."
What does he want from me?
Why make contact again after so long?
Some of my friends are saying that he may want to pick up where things were left off? How do I ask him about his feelings in a subtle way?
I really want to move forward and not fall back into painful territory, how do I prevent from being hurt by him again?
Can we ever be friends? Would it be a normal friendship?
I am Extremely confused...
Take some time and reread your post, the answer lies within. Take the lesson and move on. Next time ask yourself if this is how you want to meet your future husband. Good luck.
This is not so complicated...if the last time you "saw" him was the last time for you, but you didn't tell him that he doesn't know you don't want to see him again. Therefore, he is just calling looking for another booty call.
Can someone PLEASE tell me why so many women these days have so little self-respect?
I think that he is hoping for a FWB relationship with you. That's all. After all, while there are no longer any hopes from you for a romantic future, you'd both still be having occasional sex with each other. On his part, all he wants is sex from you on a casual basis.
I don't want to pile on here, but this is probably good advice for future relationships: When you end it, then end it. That means no booty calls, no returned phone calls, no nothing. It's just better for everybody involved. When I was single, there was nothing I hated worse than a woman who broke it off with me, but wouldn't leave me the hell alone. Just begone from my life already.
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