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Hobokenkitchen. Thanks for your response. I know I sound like a broken record. I am really not a selfish person. I just am not sure.....he said he would come back if I really wanted him to....He thinks he will move back in this weekend. I just cant stand to here my kids mention him when he is gone...I breaks my heart that I did this to them. That I think is what really bothers me. If it was not for my children I dont think I would want him back, but I feel that It is better for them to have him with us.
I am just not sure if I miss my husband or if I just miss having someone around. The fact that I totally do not miss the sex with him hits a nerve with me. You would think after 6 weeks, I would at least think about it but I do not. What do you make of that
Do you feel sexual desires to anyone else? If children weren't involved, I'd say divorce and move on already. However, for the sake of the children and since you feel some sort of love and affection for your husband, why not keeping trying to get the magic back?
Maybe counseling or therapy can help you get your sexual feelings for your husband back. I don't think that it's a bad thing that you don't want to have sex with your husband now, I think what you really miss is the romance, mystery and magic of your early courtship days. Being married and with kids, the romance as left. Sex is predictable, the same and expected as a wifely duty. So it's not something you look forward too.
So maybe talk to your husband about a new courtship period. Start from square one with no sex. Once or twice a week go on dates. Have candlelight dinners. Buy some new lingerie, your husband should spiff up and try some new cologne. You both need to woo each other again and rediscover yourselves.
Now you are reduced to begging for a response????? Now I really believe you are a troll. Please make this person stop it's nonsense by not responding with any homespun words of wisdom.
Miu yea I do feel we have lost the spark. As far as sexual desires for someone else, yes it feels like anyone else would be someone I could want to be with, anyone except him. I dont know if it is just a lack of connetion with him or what but I have felt this way for years. We are in therepy but not sure if we need time apart living separate or if we go at this living together. Any other married people feel this way about sex with there spouse?
I am not trying to beg for a response, just need advice. You all dont think I take what advice you give into consideration, but I really do, even all the negative things that are said.
Hobokenkitchen. Thanks for your response. I know I sound like a broken record. I am really not a selfish person. I just am not sure.....he said he would come back if I really wanted him to....He thinks he will move back in this weekend. I just cant stand to here my kids mention him when he is gone...I breaks my heart that I did this to them. That I think is what really bothers me. If it was not for my children I dont think I would want him back, but I feel that It is better for them to have him with us.
Somewhere about 100 posts ago I believe I told you you had no clue how hard what you were about to do was. Now make up your mind - either you take him back and work to mend all the damage you've done with the commitment to NEVER do this again - or you keep pushing forward and see where that takes you. But quit torturing everyone, make a decision.
lovesmountains I know I have to make a decision. It is just - Do I have to do it now. I would like to see how the therepy goes. He stood at he house for the weekend and it was nice to have him there. But we did get into some heated issues again. so I think he will take the apartment, but we are still trying to fix things. I am not sure how much time should be spent together. He thinks we should spend as much time as possible together.
lovesmountains I know I have to make a decision. It is just - Do I have to do it now. I would like to see how the therepy goes. He stood at he house for the weekend and it was nice to have him there. But we did get into some heated issues again. so I think he will take the apartment, but we are still trying to fix things. I am not sure how much time should be spent together. He thinks we should spend as much time as possible together.
Have you seen your doctor yet to get some antidepressants prescribed?
No, no meds I wanted to hold off on taking anything. I want to see if this is something I can manage on my own. The med thing scares me. Why do you ask?
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