Well, its been a long time..........
Not sure if this should be in relations forum or parenting, but here it goes.
My son is 19.
He fell in "love" last year.
The girl he fell in love with was 17 at the time. She is currently married to another man, going through a divorce. (Yeah, he can pick them).
She was living in a efficiency with 2 other people. My son was not "happy" with the situation, so he found a place out by us for the two of them. He has been working, earning a good living for a 19 y.o. and is doing his best at being responsible.
She refuses to work. She tells him she is looking, but always has an excuse. She did manage to land 2 jobs at different times, but got fired from both within 2 weeks. She has not held a job since he has known her.
She does not cook. The house makes a pig sty look inviting.
Their relations ship is very much so on the rocks---- and he would like to loose her BUT (of course) now there is a baby
on the way.
He wants to do the right thing, and is trying very hard to do so.
She has gotten them financially under water. He has been working out of town for the last two months, sending her money to pay the bills, eat, have gas ect. She has not been paying the bills except for the rent.
Her car needs lots of work. She is driving with expired tags from another state, expired license ect. All due to the fact that her soon to be ex has not sent her the paperwork for the car to be transfered. She can drive all over town to do what she wants BUT when it comes to getting a job "her car won't make it".
This week, she had money left over from the power bill. Instead of putting it towards repairing her car, she bought some cheap wedding rings. Which sent my son into a furry. First off, he told her that he would not marry someone who was not willing to help out the relationship. Secondly, they had previously looked at them over the weekend and he told her they couldn't afford them. So as soon as left town to go back to work, she went and bought them anyways. Thirdly, he told her if she was going to spend money she should of bought diapers or something they will use.
Her and I knock heads at least once a week. She is dumber than a bag of rocks and thinks she know everything and does not know when to SHUT UP !
Last night was the last straw for me. She has to come to me for money. She depends on me to take her to her dr. visits, which next week will be the first visit. She is standing in my kitchen telling me how upset my son was about the purchase of rings. I of course, agree with my son. Especially because last week she calls me and tells me she is hungry and has no toilette paper. Well, it got heated to say the least. She then proceeds to tell me......(deep breath, excuse me) that if they are not married, the baby will not have my sons last name, will not ligitamately (sp) be his child BUT he will pay child support AND will have NO right to said child.
Needless to say, I became unglued !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I told her she needed to leave my house before things got extremely ugly.
My son wants to be completely responsible for this child, that has never been a question.
So, now he wants to end it with her. They live together, he works in another state at the time. He wants her to leave their house since she is not contributing in any way. He would leave but does not want to do the wrong thing by breaking the lease. They are both on the lease, BUT she was a minor at the time they signed, and was legally able to enter into a contract by law.
He is not happy with her. She has often told him that he needs to choose between his parents or her.
"THOUGHTS"
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