Dating someone new and bad manners. (guys, single, feelings, dump)
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What do you do if you're seeing someone and they have bad table etiquette? And when I say bad etiquette, I mean, they sound like a pig eating at a trough. The last two guys I've seen are just horrible. Loud chewing, mouth smacking, chewed food showing, wearing it on thier face. If it's in a resaurant with noise and other things to look at, I can ignore it but, if it's at home in a quiet room...Ugh. I can't eat. I become nauseated. If I've spent a lot of time and money on the meal, I can become angry too. How do you deal with this? I have trouble saying anything because I hate to hurt a person's feelings or be rude. Maybe it's just one of those quirks I have that limits who I can date?
Manners are taught to us. If you like the guy and want to try to salvage it - do it right back in the most sow-like manner possible. If he doesn't question or notice it, dump him and move on to the next guy. That's what I would do. If he does catch it - it could be something he corrects and the incident could end up being your own little inside joke later on.
What do you do if you're seeing someone and they have bad table etiquette? And when I say bad etiquette, I mean, they sound like a pig eating at a trough. The last two guys I've seen are just horrible. Loud chewing, mouth smacking, chewed food showing, wearing it on thier face. If it's in a resaurant with noise and other things to look at, I can ignore it but, if it's at home in a quiet room...Ugh. I can't eat. I become nauseated. If I've spent a lot of time and money on the meal, I can become angry too. How do you deal with this? I have trouble saying anything because I hate to hurt a person's feelings or be rude. Maybe it's just one of those quirks I have that limits who I can date?
Well, at least you'll know if they like your cooking.
If I go out on a date and she does not show manners, I would just excuse myself and leave. A person with no manners on a public place is not very pleasant to deal with.
Smack him in the back of the head and ask if he was raised by pigs. Or you could carry one of those hand held mirrors and hold it up so he could see how disgusting he looks.
Turn away and don't go back. A guy who lacks manners will never have them.
It's really not that hard to learn to close your mouth while you chew, so a person who refuses to do so is obviously a person who doesn't care about the effect he has on others.
To quote the old song - "Dump that Chump, Lose that Loser.." Be glad you were quickly and cheaply able to identify an unsuitable candidate...Maybe you need to change your pick-up locations and/or strategy if you got 2 of these in a row.
If a person hasn't learned manners by the time he/she is old enough to date, it'll never happen. If it's just some little thing you might get them to change, but if it's bad manners in general, I'd just move on to the next person on your list.
Manners are a big deal to me and while yes they are taught to us, I firmly believe that even if you werent taught proper manners and table etiquette that it's something you should make it a point to do. That's just me. If I were single again and dating a guy that ate like that at the table, I'd have a hard time seeing him again. It's equally as important to some men. When I first met my now fiance he said one of the first things he noticed on our first date was how nice my table manners were and my etiquette and he had mentioned that it was something important to him (amongst other things).
I'm kind of also in agreeance with WyoNewk. Lack of manners for me also shows a lack of class.
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