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I agree with you. My father said, always look somebody in the eye when talking to them.
That being said, I have one attractive client who is ALWAYS wearing low-cut blouses to show off her considerable assets. By that, I mean she's awfully proud of her magnificent tatas, and the way she dresses seems to draw attention to them. So, when I talk to her, I find myself saying, "Must...look....at....her...eyes."
LOL....
must look at her eyes, must look at her eyes....hehe, I can visulize that...
IMO, this is a sub-conscious thing men do. they may not even realize they're doing it!
I agree. That's what it is. You generally don't want to lock eye-to-eye with someone you don't know well -- it's kind of intense, so you look around. As long as it's a glance, and not a leer (at her upper anatomy). Also, when sitting down eating lunch or dinner on a date, I'm always looking around at who comes in, at what others are eating, at the walls/ceiling, and any other kind of distraction.
I have a big rack, so have a bit of a look. I don't care. But if you're staring weirdly at me, I'll tap my temple and say something like, "Up here, big guy." Or if it's a very awkward situation, like you're my husband's uncle or something, I'll raise my eyebrow or smirk at you and let you know I saw you looking, you perv.
I think a quick glance is natural. To do this is just built into us. However, to stand there and stare, especially while conversing with the lady, IS very rude. It's as if the man thinks that no brain is involved. Just hooters. I do somewhat agree with the poster who said that women who push them up and out, showing alot of cleavage, really dont have the right to complain. Thats like saying "here they are. but dont look." All 3 of my daughters have at one time or another complained about this. I told them that they have the right and responsibility to tell the man that they dont like it and to stop. But I also taught them that they can dress in a way that is both appealing and appropriate and the same time. Seems to me if you want men to think of you as nothing more than boobs then go ahead and show alot of boobs. If you want men to think of you as more than that then either dress for business or get in his face and DEMAND that he stop it.
I WASN'T SHOWING OFF MY BOOBS....THEY WERE NO WHERE TO BE Found or seen...PLUS, IT'S COLD UP HERE NOW, SO, I ALSO HAD A JEAN JAKET OVER TOP....
HE WAS THAT KIND OF MAN THAT INSTEAD OF LOOKing YOU IN THE EYES WHile TALKING, HE LOOKS AT YOUR BREASTS...CONSTANTLY
Now, standing up, straightening out skirt, doing a hair flip while saying...
this isn't just a glance, and if some of you haven't ever had the opportunity to speak with a man like this, you have no idea what I'm talking about...but, like I said, next man that does this, I'm gonna smack em right up side the head and point towards my eyes while screaming "LOOK HERE WHEN I'm Talking to ya". LOL
I agree. That's what it is. You generally don't want to lock eye-to-eye with someone you don't know well -- it's kind of intense, so you look around. As long as it's a glance, and not a leer (at her upper anatomy). Also, when sitting down eating lunch or dinner on a date, I'm always looking around at who comes in, at what others are eating, at the walls/ceiling, and any other kind of distraction.
Patting you ....good boy...
I'm not talking about just a glance, which doesn't bother me...
Does anyone here really know what I'm talking about? If you've had it done to you you understand
and like the other poster said, they come off like a perv, but they don't even realize they're doing it....like the guy I knew who got fired for it...as several girls complained about it...I mean, we're talkin excessive here.
One of my girlfriends and I, well, first let me rewind a little
I had to have a professional come to the home for some minor repairs..
He was very nice, professional and all that, but the one thing that always makes my skin crawl, is when your talking to a man, he his eyes, go directly to your chest, and he never focuses his eyes on you, but is constantly going to your chest with his eyes....ewwwwwww
ONe man I knew who did this, told me he was fired b/c the women complained about it, and I told him, you do, and it's very uncomforable for a woman...and I don't believe you even know you do it....
it is a disgusting habit...on the part of some men, and as I said, I don't even believe they realize they are doing it????
What's your take?
Creme
Well Creme...
Most ladies have their jugs half outta their shirts. Some put them on a showcase style shirt. Making them cry out, "Look at me!! Look at me!!"
Some ladies even get oversized, padded bras to enhance them into standing out even more.
Let's say a man... put a large sock in his drawers or was just naturally blessed and the front of his pants was...oh let's say....your chest level. You mean to tell me that you would sneak a peak while talking to him? Especially if it is protruding out of his levis?
One or two glances is fine. I know it's hard for them not to look. But to keep focusing on it the entire time is creepy. It certainly shows the class of the man you are speaking to.
Now if it was Denzel I was talking to, I would just take my top and bra off and make it easier for him.
Most ladies have their jugs half outta their shirts. Some put them on a showcase style shirt. Making them cry out, "Look at me!! Look at me!!"
Some ladies even get oversized, padded bras to enhance them into standing out even more.
Let's say a man... put a large sock in his drawers or was just naturally blessed and the front of his pants was...oh let's say....your chest level. You mean to tell me that you would sneak a peak while talking to him? Especially if it is protruding out of his levis?
Yeah...didn't think of it that way huh?
NO, I wouldn't look, (until he turned to the side to look at something)...
I know where your coming from, and I understand, but your not understanding me...
there are actually some men, that can stand across the room while talking to me, and we're having a five minute conversation, and not once does his eyes, meet mine, as he is focused on my chest....and as I said before, unless you've had it happen, you have no idea what I'm trying to explain...
Now, could you please direct me to that Blessed man?
NO, I wouldn't look, (until he turned to the side to look at something)...
I know where your coming from, and I understand, but your not understanding me...
there are actually some men, that can stand across the room while talking to me, and we're having a five minute conversation, and not once does his eyes, meet mine, as he is focused on my chest....and as I said before, unless you've had it happen, you have no idea what I'm trying to explain...
Now, could you please direct me to that Blessed man?
That's disrespectful and rude to stare. It's also disrespectful to point.
Actually, I do what you say about the sneak-a-peek. Then when you get busted you and her are so embarrassed. She closes up the shirt, and I turn to look at something while still talking. It's hilarious!
Human nature. You can't condemn the ones who are weak.
Hmmm? Looking for the man with brains huh? Good personality, perhaps a good sense of humor?
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