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I have heard/read about so many marriages that are having problems. It seems like some of the time, it's the stress of having kids/juggling two careers/couple time that makes these marriages head toward divorce. I hear so many stories about people who say the problems/stress in their marriage started after they have kids.
Why, then, are people in such a rush to have kids after they get married? I'm 30, and many of my friends/acquaintances around my age start having kids within the first year of marriage. I don't really understand this rush at all. Isn't it better for the married couple to get to know each other for a few years at least first, before starting a family?
My personal thoughts are that it's best to get married fairly young (24-28), wait at least 3-5 years (or more) to really get to know each other, and then you're still young enough to theoretically have a couple of kids pretty easily.
Any thoughts on this? What do you think is the ideal number of years to wait before having kids?
But seriously, I think most people don't want to be moms of teenagers when they're in their fifties. I had both of my kids before I turned 27 and I'm glad for it. I'm very energetic and active and can keep up with them. The best part is that when they move on to college, I'll still be young enough to enjoy my life.
My personal thoughts are that it's best to get married fairly young (24-28), wait at least 3-5 years (or more) to really get to know each other, and then you're still young enough to theoretically have a couple of kids pretty easily.
Yeah, I'd say the 28 + 5 formula is a good one...and after finishing a college education.
The trick is jumping through those 2 sets of hoops in that time frame.
My wife and I married young - her 21 and me 24. We held off for 2 years before having children. It helped us solidify our marriage before the added stress of children.
Side note: When my children were small <5, I HATED the term kids. To me kids are nothing but baby goats. However, as my boys get older I realize how the name truly fits. Like goats, my two boys can eat anything within sight when they are hungry. God help me when they're teenagers I once read that the average male teen will eat up to 4k calories a day. Even more scary is that both are very athletic so that means even more calories...
Because it is the next step on everyones list of expectations for you.
That would be my answer also. I think the ideal marriage age is in the late 20's-30's. Although everyone is different so there can never be a right answer in regards to that. I made a mistake getting married young, but I do like the fact I gave birth in my early 20's. When my little one goes off to college or start her adult life, I'll be in my early 40s. Still time to 'live life'.
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I once read that the average male teen will eat up to 4k calories a day. Even more scary is that both are very athletic so that means even more calories...
