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Has your "gut" feeling ever been right when you have thought you are being cheated on? You know, the kind where you have no concrete proof but you know something's not right. Should you trust your feelings and confront someone or basically wait until you catch them in the act?
Has your "gut" feeling ever been right when you have thought you are being cheated on? You know, the kind where you have no concrete proof but you know something's not right. Should you trust your feelings and confront someone or basically wait until you catch them in the act?
Do you consider keeping something like this secret good for your relationship?
Its not really a secret. When I think something is up, I question. Unfortunately, not having proof makes it very easy for the other person to deny. I guess my question really is if most people's "gut" feelings are reliable and if others have gone through this and trusted those feelings because they actually were right?
You could always tell your partner that you have this weird feeling and want to know if there's anything you need to know about. The problem with that is that once you let your partner know that you don't trust them, the relationship might as well be over.
So, it's a tough call. How do you think he/she would react if they were innocent?
My gut feeling is that nobody has ever cheated on me, but I've had gut feelings about lots of other things. Sometimes my gut was wrong; sometimes it was right. Usually the best reaction from a gut feeling is to listen to it but don't trust it.
I did ask. Got a very monotone answer. "I went to the bar, I was not with anyone." That was it. No elaboration, no explanation on where he was all night. This doesn't happen often, but it has happened before. If you're not home, then where the h e ll are you? I know he's not having an "affair" but maybe a drunken encounter with someone when he's out.
I've ignored mine in various situations and found I was right.
I think another thing to consider is your level of security. If you're a generally untrusting person, those red flags will pop up all over the place no matter how faithful he is. You should be able to talk about it, but someone who is cheating is not likely to admit it. Tough call.
I've ignored mine in various situations and found I was right.
I think another thing to consider is your level of security. If you're a generally untrusting person, those red flags will pop up all over the place no matter how faithful he is. You should be able to talk about it, but someone who is cheating is not likely to admit it. Tough call.
That's the problem, I know he would never admit. That's where the gut feeling comes in. I have caught him in lies in the past and he still will deny he did anything. Not lies about cheating, but other things. I think at this point, I'm feeling I have no trust in him. For both of us, it would probably be wise to get out of the relationship (not married, but living together for 12 years). I can't keep always worrying about what he's doing and making myself a paranoid wreck.
It will be hard to do, but you're probably doing the right thing.
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