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Yes, except this person left me over and over and over again and came back over and over and over again just to leave again. We are not together currently but have been communicating on and off. I'm mustering up the courage for the first time to walk away and end this once and for all, forever...
I am beginning to believe that I can give and receive true love again, but if not, I loved
It wasn't someone I 'loved', but I was dating a guy around a year ago and I wanted things to get serious. I really liked him. However, for some reason, he pegged me as someone who didn't have high goals in life, since I told him I wanted to be a teacher (I had just returned to school to finish my degree; I was working part-time in retail while attending school) and not have a corporate career like he did (he worked in finance). He thought that a teaching career would equate to a lesser chance of financial stability. I thought that was especially callous of him. Furthermore, he never fully accepted my son as an important part of his life. Despite the fact that we had things in common and I liked him, I had to break up with him for insulting my desired career path and not treating my son with respect.
I'm sooooooo glad I stopped seeing him. He's now an afterthought and I'm less than a year away from completing my degree and getting my teaching certification!
I just went through the same thing sans kids. I hate that I still think I love her, I am on a mission to forget about her as fast as humanly possible. Unfortunately, the good times were great, and those, I am finding, are hard to let go of.
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I did, my wife, i miss her greatly, alot as a matter of fact, i love her still, always will, but she messed up my credit, never accepted my kids as i did hers, never cooked for me, always wanted to be partying w her friends, never appreciated all i would do for her, so i left her! I wish she would be willing to change, but i know life is not a disney movie, so im going to keep pushing without her, but i know, till the day i die, theirs going to be an emptiness in my hear that only she could fill, i wanted her to be the 1!
It wasn't someone I 'loved', but I was dating a guy around a year ago and I wanted things to get serious. I really liked him. However, for some reason, he pegged me as someone who didn't have high goals in life, since I told him I wanted to be a teacher (I had just returned to school to finish my degree; I was working part-time in retail while attending school) and not have a corporate career like he did (he worked in finance). He thought that a teaching career would equate to a lesser chance of financial stability. I thought that was especially callous of him. Furthermore, he never fully accepted my son as an important part of his life. Despite the fact that we had things in common and I liked him, I had to break up with him for insulting my desired career path and not treating my son with respect.
I'm sooooooo glad I stopped seeing him. He's now an afterthought and I'm less than a year away from completing my degree and getting my teaching certification!
See, I wish I could date and be with someone that wants to be a teacher. I think it is a very noble profession, and it pays pretty decent too.
You live in San Antonio, don't you? My roommate is in her second year of teaching Middle School, she really enjoys it for the most part.
Back to topic... yes.. once. Still makes me sad on occassion. She was horrible with money ( I posted about it before) and money is something that stresses me out to no end (Grew up very poor). She was terrible about bouncing her checkbook and things of the sort.
We ended up breaking up... I truly loved her... but that stuff was making me ill.
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See, I wish I could date and be with someone that wants to be a teacher. I think it is a very noble profession, and it pays pretty decent too.
You live in San Antonio, don't you? My roommate is in her second year of teaching Middle School, she really enjoys it for the most part.
Back to topic... yes.. once. Still makes me sad on occassion. She was horrible with money ( I posted about it before) and money is something that stresses me out to no end (Grew up very poor). She was terrible about bouncing her checkbook and things of the sort.
We ended up breaking up... I truly loved her... but that stuff was making me ill.
I'm outside SA. I'm glad to hear that your roommate enjoys teaching. I'm really looking forward to starting my teaching career next year (hopefully). I'm planning on teaching high school English.
I think that, when I get ready to settle down, I'd like to find a guy who was a fellow teacher. I think that would be a good fit for me.
My question to all of you who fell in love with people who mistreated you: What on earth was it that attracted you to the person in the first place???
I fall in love with a person based upon how they treat me, their qualities, and their character. Likewise, I would fall out of love with a person who did not treat me with kindness and respect. If they started out treating me good, but changed and became abusive, then the bad behavior would override their previous good behavior and kill whatever love I felt for them previously.
I cannot understand how someone could still have feelings of love for partners that were messed up and abusive.
It wasn't someone I 'loved', but I was dating a guy around a year ago and I wanted things to get serious. I really liked him. However, for some reason, he pegged me as someone who didn't have high goals in life, since I told him I wanted to be a teacher (I had just returned to school to finish my degree; I was working part-time in retail while attending school) and not have a corporate career like he did (he worked in finance). He thought that a teaching career would equate to a lesser chance of financial stability. I thought that was especially callous of him. Furthermore, he never fully accepted my son as an important part of his life. Despite the fact that we had things in common and I liked him, I had to break up with him for insulting my desired career path and not treating my son with respect.
I'm sooooooo glad I stopped seeing him. He's now an afterthought and I'm less than a year away from completing my degree and getting my teaching certification!
We're almost opposite of that. I'm in commercial finance and my wife was in corporate graphic design and marketing. We have two kids and after a while, she was getting burned out and really had to do some soul searching. For some odd reason she has a natural knack with working with special needs kids, so she decided to go back to school and get her masters in special needs education.
She is now a full time special needs para educator while she finishes up her masters to become a teacher. I'm totally proud and totally supportive of her endeavors. Right now she doesn't make much, but who cares. She IS making a difference in some very special lives. That's more important than money.
Of course the fact the we've been married over 20 years and together since HS has a lot to do with our relationship I guess...
But man- if someone is that shallow to be concerned about their partners career.. Not being good enough..Especially when it is a noble one, shame on them. Glad you dumped the garbage.
I'm in a situation where I love him but Im tired of being in a long distance relationship. We have been together (sans some breaks after fights) for four years and it may be headed towards marriage. However, he is in the military and life would mean moving often. I am not sure if my personality could handle that. I have an introverted personality and I don't handle change easily. My eyes have started to roam and I've started to have crushes on other people. I thought I would always have strong enough feelings for my boyfriend where I wouldn't ever consider leaving even if I had to be in a long distance relationship to be with him. I also know that breaking up with him will absolutely crush him. On top of that, he is an amazing person. I really don't know what to do.
I'm in this situation right now. Debating whether to leave someone I've been with for 8 years. He's not violent or have any bad habits, he's just extremely selfish and does not consider how I feel about things. Lately he yells at me whenever I try to have a discussion with him about something that has upset. It's like my feelings don't matter to him, although he calls me selfish. He's so wrapped up in himself.
My problem is I don't know how to break up with him. He's going through a difficult financial situation right now and I feel guilty if I leave him...like kicking a dog when he's down.
Kinda sounds like he's kicking you. If he's treating you that way, just let him go.
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I wish she would be willing to change, but i know life is not a disney movie, so im going to keep pushing without her, but i know, till the day i die, theirs going to be an emptiness in my hear that only she could fill, i wanted her to be the 1!
