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My boyfriend & I recently broke up after almost 2 years together. We love each other but we both have so much going on in our lives and have other commitments that make it so hard for us to find time to be together. I have never had a problem moving on after a break up - but then I have never felt this way about someone. I just wondered how others managed to get over a broken heart.
In short, time and eventually meeting someone else. Sounds like, however, there may be less than solid reasons here to break up? By that I mean, it doesn't sound like either of you really wanted to break up...
Somebody told me this and I thought it sounded hokey, but it really works: Set aside time each day to think about him, or feel sad, or cry. And do it during that time, it is a commitment, just like a meeting or anything else on your schedule. But outside of that time, do other stuff, do your life. What this "set-aside time" does is "contain" your hurt, sadness, grief so they don't overwhelm you and swamp you and take over your life and bog you down.
Your feelings are important to allow yourself to grieve, but it is also important to do your life, and take good care of yourself. Best wishes.
My boyfriend & I recently broke up after almost 2 years together. We love each other but we both have so much going on in our lives and have other commitments that make it so hard for us to find time to be together. I have never had a problem moving on after a break up - but then I have never felt this way about someone. I just wondered how others managed to get over a broken heart.
Listening to a lot of Barbara Striesand and tear jerking country songs.
It's all apart of life and growing and learning from experiences good or bad. Just going back to being single and behaving the way you used is hard to adjust to right away.
Somebody told me this and I thought it sounded hokey, but it really works: Set aside time each day to think about him, or feel sad, or cry. And do it during that time, it is a commitment, just like a meeting or anything else on your schedule. But outside of that time, do other stuff, do your life. What this "set-aside time" does is "contain" your hurt, sadness, grief so they don't overwhelm you and swamp you and take over your life and bog you down.
Your feelings are important to allow yourself to grieve, but it is also important to do your life, and take good care of yourself. Best wishes.
Thank you. I have been trying to keep busy (not that I have a problem doing that - its one of our problems). The hardest time is when I lay down at night -
I know I will be ok no matter what happens - but this sure feels terrible!
Nothing like a trip to the caribbean, to my country.
I wish I could take a trip! I am putting 2 kids through college and taking care of my elderly parents. I was working 2 jobs until recently getting laid off from one. I am still seeking another job - BUT one day... the kids will be on their own & it will be my time! (fingers crossed)
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Sounds like, however, there may be less than solid reasons here to break up? By that I mean, it doesn't sound like either of you really wanted to break up...
