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I know there isn't any way to just make it go away. But... any way to help the process? Anything I can do to distract myself? Any websites to go to? Anything at all?
Exercise has helped me when I've felt down. Also just doing the things you enjoy so you're not in a position to just sit around and sulk.
Going out and meeting new people can be helpful too. I'm not talking about getting drunk and having one-night stands, but interacting with friends and new people can be helpful.
Exercise has helped me when I've felt down. Also just doing the things you enjoy so you're not in a position to just sit around and sulk.
Going out and meeting new people can be helpful too. I'm not talking about getting drunk and having one-night stands, but interacting with friends and new people can be helpful.
Good luck!
Thanks, I'll do my best. I'm actually going to this huge Summer thing in a few weeks, that should be helpful.
It's a process and you're really going to have to go through it. Surround yourself with friends, stay reasonably busy. It's human nature to avoid pain, but you have allow yourself the time to grieve. Have a good cry, it will pass.
What helped me was 'sitting with my feelings'. Instead of running from the pain, I let it wash over me for a time. I sat by myself, cried, listen to all our old songs, etc and just let it all out. After a time your body will be tired of all that and you will feel a little bit better.
You may have to do this a couple of times until it gets less and less. I think acknowledging your feelings for a while will help. Your heart can let the pain out and you can begin to heal.
Don't hole yourself up in your house for days on end though. Go out, accept invitations with friends, etc. Allow yourself to go through all stages of grief.
Writing also helps. If you aren't used to writing, it may seem fruitless but at least give it a shot. What do you have to lose? Tell your ex everything you want to say, let it all out. Or just write your feelings down. No one has to know or read what you wrote.
Anything is better than keeping it all in. That can turn into bitterness, depression, etc. You are only hurting yourself in the process.
I know of some workbooks that have helped others. If you are interested in checking it out let me know, I know some people don't want to do those things.
Quote "I'm not talking about getting drunk and having one-night stands.."
Ok Slanderous well there goes my advice right out the window!!! Thanks a lot!! lol....
P.S. Can I suggest vodka? Specifically Ketel One?
Ok Ok sorry...I digress...
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