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I have had a few relationships but nothing like my marriage.
I moved for him, the side of the family I am close to is in Canada. I am in Colorado alone.
I did everything I could to make it work. Now I feel so worthless and I don't know what else. I know I shouldn't feel like this...but right now I can't help it.
Maybe someday I will be able to see the big picture and move on...and not look back.
So my question is...how do you get over a break up, a painful one?
Have any of you had a really ****ty ending to your relationship and basically thought life was over...? How did you move on past all of that?
I'm sorry you're going through this. I've read your other posts and it may not seem like it now, but you are definitely better off without him. Still, I know that probably doesn't help right now.
I'm going on five months and still not over it (though I wasn't married to the guy). I'm taking it one day at a time and trying to remind myself of the crappy way he treated me. Some days are better than others.
I have had a few relationships but nothing like my marriage.
I moved for him, the side of the family I am close to is in Canada. I am in Colorado alone.
I did everything I could to make it work. Now I feel so worthless and I don't know what else. I know I shouldn't feel like this...but right now I can't help it.
Maybe someday I will be able to see the big picture and move on...and not look back.
So my question is...how do you get over a break up, a painful one?
Have any of you had a really ****ty ending to your relationship and basically thought life was over...? How did you move on past all of that?
I was a numb zombie for a few months. Was just functioning on autopilot - managed to keep myself clean and groomed and doing my job without anybody noticing anything out of the ordinary, paid the bills, and shoved something in my mouth. That was about it... Eventually came out of the fog little by little.
First of all trying to save a relationship does not make you worthless or a failure. You fighting for your marriage is a good thing. Remember that some things are beyond your control. It will take a long while to get over things. And you will never feel the same again.
It is scary... But take it one day at a time. Find friends or activities to keep you busy. Take things one day at a time. Some days it will feel like baby steps and that is okay. Some days you feel like you are losing ground it is okay to feel that way.
You are not the first person to go through this or feel that way. It will take a while but things will get better.
Have any of you had a really ****ty ending to your relationship and basically thought life was over...? How did you move on past all of that?
Time is the only thing that will help as corny as that sounds. In the mean time I definitely wouldn't ruminate over the relationship. Take this time to try and come out of life a better person: get new hobbies, make new friends, get in great shape, go for a raise...etc, etc.
I wouldn't date right now though if I were you. I tried to bury my divorce in extra woman and it didn't work.
I have had a few relationships but nothing like my marriage.
I moved for him, the side of the family I am close to is in Canada. I am in Colorado alone.
I did everything I could to make it work. Now I feel so worthless and I don't know what else. I know I shouldn't feel like this...but right now I can't help it.
Maybe someday I will be able to see the big picture and move on...and not look back.
So my question is...how do you get over a break up, a painful one?
Have any of you had a really ****ty ending to your relationship and basically thought life was over...? How did you move on past all of that?
Find someone else, you're a chick, it's much easier to find someone else than it is for a guy, especially one who is socially "special". I've been brutally dumped by women, and was completely down in the dumps, and had absolutely zero options available, but time healed all wounds. Are there any guys interested in you? AT least you have that. I had nothing of the sort.
I wouldn't date right now though if I were you. I tried to bury my divorce in extra woman and it didn't work.
I made some attempts at just socializing with new people during that time. I don't know what the hell I was thinking... Surprisingly enough, they even produced a few hits... Either I kept the mask on well enough or the guys smelled vulnerability... Some of them were decent people, though. Guess the mask must've looked good enough. If people at work who knew me for years had no clue... But I've always kept to myself more or less.
I was a numb zombie for a few months. Was just functioning on autopilot - managed to keep myself clean and groomed and doing my job without anybody noticing anything out of the ordinary, paid the bills, and shoved something in my mouth. That was about it... Eventually came out of the fog little by little.
Time heals everything. You think you will not survive and that life is not worth living. Think again! There is a reason for everything that happens. You might not see it now or understand why, but God has a plan for you. While the healing process is going thru, mantain youself busy with friends, family, make time for yourself, volunteer, read, listen to the music you like, etc.. Little by little the pain will go away and one day you will wake up and question yourself..."Why in the world did I loose so much time???????
Be blessed!
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Surprisingly enough, they even produced a few hits... Either I kept the mask on well enough or the guys smelled vulnerability... Some of them were decent people, though. Guess the mask must've looked good enough. If people at work who knew me for years had no clue... But I've always kept to myself more or less.
