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Assuming that you are single and of the monogamous type.
If someone you knew had an SO (6+ years), and they became attracted to you. And to be intimate with you, they were willing to convert their relationship to an open relationship -with the SO's agreement for whatever reasons.
(a) Would you consider/accept it?
(b) If not, would you re-consider if they told you that you would be the
only outside person they would be with?
(c) After sometime together, if they decided to leave their SO to be with
you, would you consider a relationship with them if they agreed to no
more open relationships? Or would you have a trust issue?
b) Errr... I'm not sure. If I'd want a serious relationship I wouldn't want a person just jumping from another relationship to be with me. If it's just for the moment, maybe.
Obviously assuming I was single.... Yes, I'd consider it.
(b) If not, would you re-consider if they told you that you would be the only outside person they would be with?
Again, I'd consider it, but of course there'd have to be an understanding that I am not bound to them in any monogamous sort of way either...
I think if it's up front what this "relationship" is then there isn't anything wrong with it, so long as it's consentual..
(c) After sometime together, if they decided to leave their SO to be with you, would you consider a relationship with them if they agreed to no more open relationships? Or would you have a trust issue?
Well, honestly I think I'd have LESS of a trust issue with this person assuming they followed through on everything else..... I mean if I'm understanding this correctly, this person BEFORE having any relations with me TOLD their current SO, right??? In my experience these are the trustworthy people. They put their cards on the table and allow you to make a decision based on it.....
Would I marry this person? Well.... THAT I'd have to really think about. One can be flighty in relationships as long as they're being honest, but marriage is a different bird....
Hell no and double hell no! Anyone that would be in this type
of relationship needs their head examined
Monogamous means you have sex with one person, so if the
person is still haven sex with the wife and the other women then it’s not monogamous.
Who in the hell would be willing in their heart to let the person
they love convert their relationship to an open relationship and
be okay with that (NOT ME)!!!
A trust issue if they now want to dump the person they took a vow
with, I wouldn’t trust that person for sh_it So yes a big trust issue
Thanks everyone for the replies. I realize that I missed one aspect. The person and their SO are not married but are living together. In reality it a marriage of sorts without the formalized part.
Honestly? I'd say most men would be ok with that under (b). And no man I know of would consider that person marriage or a true relationship (in the romantic beyond sexual aspect) material.
It would be akin to having a "relationship" with a porn star that's done boy/girl. Sure, you'd have sex with them in a pinch, but the trust issues that are there would preclude anything aside from a friend with benefits from being possible.
Frankly anyone that is in the dating world past college usually has enough trust issues with the opposite sex, adding something else that blatant...*shrug*
SGSI - you post a lot about open relationships. Are you trying to tell us something???
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