husband caught looking at porn. (crying, people, like, interest)

[Braunwyn]

Originally Posted by nebulous1

Gee, you asked your husband what...If you are all he ever wants?
Do you think he would ever say no?

I asked if he's seeking out prettier girls and then he gave the response.

I think it is admirable that he is happy and satisfied with you, but I don't think this looking at porn is about being happy and satisfied with someone.

I agree, which is why I don't take issue with it when I'm not available for him, which has happened in our marriage from time to time. I'm very busy and he is very busy and our schedules don't always match up. I won't fault him for doing whatever on his own. Though, it's his own words that convey that he would prefer me any day and I believe him. I have complete trust in my husband and that's one of things that makes our marriage so great.

Either way, if I all of sudden became insecure, and held emotional distress about a particular issue, he would do whatever needed. That's what married people do or should do imo.

[NyMark_AZ]

Originally Posted by Braunwyn

I asked my husband that today, actually (due to this thread). His responses are always the same. There is no better looking woman lol and if we didn't have dry spells, he'd have no interest. He also noted that he wouldn't if I asked, so I like that. But, that's just how our marriage goes, it's a rarity and I'm blessed for it.


I don't think justifying viewing porn as an alternative to cheating should even come up. Not with adults at least. Something else is going wrong in a marriage if cheating arises.

As an aside, I'm pretty amazed at the knee-jerk disrespect response when discussing marriage (in this thread, generally).

Not justifying it..because as an adult, you don't have to justify what you do, just was speaking my opinion, to me porn is not an issue at all, if you have a good relationship, porn works on the insecurities of women, who in my "own" opinion, more or less have never actually watched it, or believe that their man watches it because of something to do with them, when in reality, it's more like football, men simply watch it because they enjoy it...

[nebulous1]

Originally Posted by NyMark_AZ

Not justifying it..because as an adult, you don't have to justify what you do, just was speaking my opinion, to me porn is not an issue at all, if you have a good relationship, porn works on the insecurities of women, who in my "own" opinion, more or less have never actually watched it, or believe that their man watches it because of something to do with them, when in reality, it's more like football, men simply watch it because they enjoy it...

Maybe some women feel it's betrayal. It is almost as if the marriage is a form of a status symbol, and they are more interested in having it than if the other person is really happy.

[Philosophizer]

let's just throw it out there. what if your wife/husband was into beastiality?

[NyMark_AZ]

hmm, you could be right...but maybe women wouldn't feel betrayed if they were more open minded, and started making sex tapes with their hubbies...

[nebulous1]

Originally Posted by NyMark_AZ

hmm, you could be right...but maybe women wouldn't feel betrayed if they were more open minded, and started making sex tapes with their hubbies...

Yep, just google spanking and see how many sites come up.

[nebulous1]

Originally Posted by TexianPatriot

let's just throw it out there. what if your wife/husband was into beastiality?

That's definitely off my list!

[Currency Pair Crocodile]

Originally Posted by nebulous1

Yep, just google spanking and see how many sites come up.

Yeah, exactly why a sane head should take over google and police it.

[Chowhound]

I'm pretty vanilla when it comes to sex. The basics make me happy. I don't understand people that need all of the way out there kinky stuff.

[Braunwyn]

Originally Posted by NyMark_AZ

Not justifying it..because as an adult, you don't have to justify what you do,

yea, I'm just responding.

just was speaking my opinion, to me porn is not an issue at all, if you have a good relationship, porn works on the insecurities of women, who in my "own" opinion, more or less have never actually watched it, or believe that their man watches it because of something to do with them, when in reality, it's more like football, men simply watch it because they enjoy it...

It's hard to say why some take issue with porn. Is it due to insecurities? the other's addiction? a feminist pov? childhood experiences? Who knows. It's probably stratified for most. Some women don't care and some do. A partner deals with his/her partner's issues as they come up. And I don't feel personal gratification should trump a partner's personal issues, for whatever reason.

Originally Posted by nebulous1

Maybe some women feel it's betrayal. It is almost as if the marriage is a form of a status symbol, and they are more interested in having it than if the other person is really happy.

I think it's a stretch to correlate porn with happiness. I can see how this could be a matter of personal freedom, but marriage rests upon compromise, so we don't always get what we want every minute of the day.

Originally Posted by TexianPatriot

let's just throw it out there. what if your wife/husband was into beastiality?

Therapy would be on the agenda.