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This is a response to temptation's advice on my other thread...
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Its not something that only happens to you. If you ask me, when a guy comes up to me and hes not all that gorgeous , and he wants to ask me a million questions just because he sees me there, I am amazingly turned off. He would be better off telling me a joke or saying something about himself, or asking me something about something else, but not ask me what my name is ,where I live, how much do I make, etc... Those questions are better for a date instead of a first meeting. You may not like my advice, but this is how I feel about a man suddenly interrogating me.
I would like to here some opinions from more women.
How do you like to be approached by guys?
Can you give some examples of men who approached you and you were attracted to them and wanted to see them again?
What did he do? What did he say? What was his body language like? Where you alone? Where you in a group? What did they do or say that made you decide you wanted to see them again?
He cracked a joke and followed it up with a couple of qualifying statements that indicated he was just kidding around and not being disrespectful. I found that incredibly attractive and funny.
Not sure that's going to help you though because you're dealing in face to face.
In terms of face to face meetings of random guys in bars and pubs I'm not sure I can be of much assistance on account that was a long time ago and I was usually a little tipsy AND it took me a while to work out that the odds of me meeting someone right for me wasn't going to happen in a bar or pub. **shrug** Not saying I didn't meet guys and start relationships with them after meeting in a bar or pub, just that we didn't really have much in common after a while, other than we both drank.
He cracked a joke and followed it up with a couple of qualifying statements that indicated he was just kidding around and not being disrespectful. I found that incredibly attractive and funny.
Can you be a little more specific please?
Did he immediately start with a joke or did he go "Hi, I'm so-and-so. What's your name? Where you from? etc etc?"
We "met" on the internet so it's a completely different ball game to what you're attempting which is why I said I didn't think it would help you.
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Did he immediately start with a joke or did he go "Hi, I'm so-and-so. What's your name? Where you from? etc etc?"
He responded on the open forum to something I said with a joke and followed it up with a dm explaining himself and introducing himself.
I believe he then continued the "conversation" by politely asking me about myself. I think he was already aware of where I was from.
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What exactly was the joke?
He asked me what I was doing Saturday night. I guess you had to be there. It was very funny in the context it was asked.
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What did he talk about afterwards?
We talk about anything and everything.
I think that's probably something maybe you're not understanding in your quest. It's not just about what you say, how you dress, how you present, how she looks, what she says and how she presents. There's a chemistry thing as well. A randomness to the universe. Probably not the answers you're looking for.
Dude, it really depends on when and where you are trying to meet/approach the ladies. What has always worked for me is a simple "Hello" and friendly smile. Ive met so many women this way. Met them at Borders, Starbucks, running trail, supermarket, stopped at a red light, rollerblading, in the mall, etc. Just gauge their reply and you'll easily know if they would be open to conversation.
Nice smile and hello is all it takes to at least get her attention. From there you must have at least some type of personality to seem interesting.
I'm so done. If you haven't gotten it by now, you NEVER will.
+1, Im done
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I guess you had to be there. It was very funny in the context it was asked. 
If you haven't gotten it by now, you NEVER will. 
