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Old 06-12-2009, 02:47 PM
 
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a couple of recent topics got me thinking: in my home environment, I know hundreds of people of all ages, with the exception of 2 women who are divorced, everyone I know is married (their first & only marriage).

in contrast, where I am now, I also know hundreds of people; with the exception of 2 couples who are in their late twenties, all of these other people are single. they range from people who prefer "dating" to be their chosen lifestyle, to those who have living-together arrangements with a long string of different people, to a few who have said they had been married 5 or 6 times.

anyone have a viewpoint as to what accounts for the difference?
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Old 06-12-2009, 02:54 PM
 
Location: Delaware...Oi
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Short answer from my view? Individuality.

Some have had bad luck, others made bad choices, others see the other options differently, other see what's happened to the others decide it's not for them, and on, and on...

There are so many variables depending on parents, experience, religious background, region...It would probably be a calculus equation that spanned more pages than War and Peace.
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Old 06-12-2009, 03:26 PM
 
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Short answer from my view? Individuality.

Some have had bad luck, others made bad choices, others see the other options differently, other see what's happened to the others decide it's not for them, and on, and on...

There are so many variables depending on parents, experience, religious background, region...It would probably be a calculus equation that spanned more pages than War and Peace.
yes, you make good points there...
but statistically-speaking, doesn't it seem odd?
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Old 06-12-2009, 03:32 PM
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Social and cultural environments habituate and reinforce certain modes of living and attract people of like or compatible mindset.

Small towns and suburbs of course are all about marriage and children.

In Manhattan or San Francisco, as the most opposite extreme, people tend strongly toward being single/dating/co-habiting for life.
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Old 06-12-2009, 03:46 PM
 
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a couple of recent topics got me thinking: in my home environment, I know hundreds of people of all ages, with the exception of 2 women who are divorced, everyone I know is married (their first & only marriage).

in contrast, where I am now, I also know hundreds of people; with the exception of 2 couples who are in their late twenties, all of these other people are single. they range from people who prefer "dating" to be their chosen lifestyle, to those who have living-together arrangements with a long string of different people, to a few who have said they had been married 5 or 6 times.

anyone have a viewpoint as to what accounts for the difference?
wow you know a lot of people!
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Old 06-13-2009, 02:48 AM
 
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Simply a personal choice. Some people prefer married and others don't.
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Old 06-13-2009, 03:49 AM
 
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Marriage was a lot more popular 50 years ago when the average man couldn't get much sex without it and women were taught that they had to have that ring on their finger to give it up. Divorce was expensive and required almost a trial, so most people who had problems just learned to put up with each other.
Now that we have sexual equality, there is really no point in getting married unless two people want to join together to have a family and secure that with their legal union.
I think young women still hold onto the fantasy of the white dress and big wedding and happily ever after, but the over 50% divorce rate probably tells us that they were not ready for the reality of marriage.
A piece of paper is not going to encourage people to love each other more or less.
A lot of people who are having a love/sexual relationship live together because it is cheaper financially and enables them to have a better lifesltyle. But, again, there is really no reason for them to marry.
In addition, the US government does not support marriage. Two young professionals pay lower taxes individually than if they were married with no children. Two retired seniors get more from social security than if they married.
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Old 06-13-2009, 03:52 AM
 
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Marriage was a lot more popular 50 years ago when the average man couldn't get much sex without it and women were taught that they had to have that ring on their finger to give it up..
Now that we have sexual equality, there is really no point in getting married unless two people want to join together to have a family and secure that with their legal union.
A piece of paper is not going to encourage people to love each other more or less.
A lot of people who are having a sexual relationship live together because it is cheaper financially and enables them to have a better lifesltyle. But, again, there is really no reason for them to marry.
In addition, the US government does not support marriage. Two young professionals pay lower taxes individually than if they were married with no children. Two retired seniors get more from social security than if they married.
All true. I know people who lived together, even had kids and wore wedding rings and referred to each other as husband/wife, yet weren't legally married because they paid less taxes on paper and were entitled to more stuff under the law.
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Old 06-13-2009, 03:55 AM
 
Location: Delaware...Oi
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All true. I know people who lived together, even had kids and wore wedding rings and referred to each other as husband/wife, yet weren't legally married because they paid less taxes on paper and were entitled to more stuff under the law.

psst, and you can tell the car insurance people you are still, they don't check for the license.
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Old 06-13-2009, 05:26 AM
 
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Simply a personal choice. Some people prefer married and others don't.
Right on!!!!!!!

Now somehow we need to convince the Religious-right zealots that marriage isn't the backbone of Society like they claim it is. If it was, everybody would be married.
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