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Hi there. I am trying to continue a thread that hasn't gotten any response. I hope this doesn't mean I am a thread killer, but I really want to know which women would prefer, a mid 20's virgin who has his own job, pays his bills, but doesn't have relationship experience. Compared to a mid 20's slacker/ deadbeat, this guy has no full time job/ maybe a part time job, a baby's mama, trouble with the law, etc. But knows what to do in the sack. Which one are leaning towards..
*The virgin isn't a virgin because of religion either.
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Originally Posted by FormerCaliforniaGirl It depends on the age of the virgin. If you are, say, in your teens or early 20's, then what's the issue? But if you're in your late 20's or even your 30's, then that's a red flag. For a man to get up in his 20's and 30's and still be a virgin....well, you gotta wonder.
Wonder what exactly? I don't think all virgins are obvious. Are you saying if you met a decent guy but later found out he was a virgin that that would be worse if he was a criminal, deadbeat, cheater, etc?
Hi there. I am trying to continue a thread that hasn't gotten any response. I hope this doesn't mean I am a thread killer, but I really want to know which women would prefer, a mid 20's virgin who has his own job, pays his bills, but doesn't have relationship experience. Compared to a mid 20's slacker/ deadbeat, this guy has no full time job/ maybe a part time job, a baby's mama, trouble with the law, etc. But knows what to do in the sack. Which one are leaning towards..
*The virgin isn't a virgin because of religion either.
You know either guy has just as much chance of landing a girl if the aim is simply to land a girl. I'd have thought the deadbeat would probably get more on account he's looking for more and he doesn't care how he gets it. AND the virgin probably is looking for specifics anyway, yes?
I'm not sure why it's so important to you which one women prefer. NOT that I think you'll get a definitive answer anyway. Isn't it more important to be worrying about what kind of person YOU ARE and what kind of person you want to be AND what kind of girl you're looking for than worrying about what everybody else is doing or wanting or thinks?
Sorry but this just really confuses me.
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Originally Posted by machIVbeetle
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Originally Posted by FormerCaliforniaGirl It depends on the age of the virgin. If you are, say, in your teens or early 20's, then what's the issue? But if you're in your late 20's or even your 30's, then that's a red flag. For a man to get up in his 20's and 30's and still be a virgin....well, you gotta wonder.
Wonder what exactly? I don't think all virgins are obvious. Are you saying if you met a decent guy but later found out he was a virgin that that would be worse if he was a criminal, deadbeat, cheater, etc?
Oh and not everyone would find the age of the virgin some kind of red flag. When you're meeting someone and you have a mutual attraction I'd say that having a mandatory cut off age on virginity for men is about as useful as dating single women over 40 and assuming there's something wrong with them because they've never married.
......a mid 20's virgin who has his own job, pays his bills, but doesn't have relationship experience. Compared to a mid 20's slacker/ deadbeat, this guy has no full time job/ maybe a part time job, a baby's mama, trouble with the law, etc. But knows what to do in the sack.
With those two choices, one would be brain dead or a glutton for punishment to choose the latter.
My feeling and fear is that all of the virgins accomplishments will be for not because he is a virgin in his late 20's/ early 30's. I just don't think that is fair, and I am trying to understand the reasoning behind it.
My feeling and fear is that all of the virgins accomplishments will be for not because he is a virgin in his late 20's/ early 30's. I just don't think that is fair, and I am trying to understand the reasoning behind it.
Yeah, BUT only to the kind of girl he probably doesn't want or need to be with anyway. Capice?
Truly you don't need to understand the reasoning behind it because who really cares if other people are prepared to be that dismissive or make stupid choices in their life? It's their problem, not yours. The IMPORTANT thing to remember is that no matter where you're at, no matter how many people reject you for a perceived flaw not everyone will. Some will find it an asset. You just have to find "your people".
Yeah, BUT only to the kind of girl he probably doesn't want or need to be with anyway. Capice?
Truly you don't need to understand the reasoning behind it because who really cares if other people are prepared to be that dismissive or make stupid choices in their life? It's their problem, not yours. The IMPORTANT thing to remember is that no matter where you're at, no matter how many people reject you for a perceived flaw not everyone will. Some will find it an asset. You just have to find "your people".
That makes a lot of sense. I guess I am influenced by society. I've read from a lot of women (some on this message board) that being a virgin is weird. I'm ashamed of this. I feel like I screwed up somewhere and it will cost me a family and be forced to live alone... or with my parents.
But you do see it a lot don't you? Women who will stay with deadbeats who beat them when 'nice guys' are everywhere but they are becoming more bitter by the day.
My feeling and fear is that all of the virgins accomplishments will be for not because he is a virgin in his late 20's/ early 30's. I just don't think that is fair, and I am trying to understand the reasoning behind it.
It's not fair, but I wouldn't worry about certain women judging you. Fact of the matter is, everyone has some element about them that others will be judgmental towards. What's "odd" to one person can be great to another. Some women may find it positively charming. I don't think it's bad at all.
What is the reason behind your virginity?
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