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If your friend doesn't put him in his place..like REALLY good..then ditch her. I don't care what kind of history you have with her. If you tell her about her husband's actions and she doesn't stand up for you...she's a loser. Let's hope this is not the case. This guy is psychotic and it's her fault for picking him. He obviously has severe issues and needs a swift kick in the behind.
Like I said the OP's friend new what she was marrying into. She likes drama.
And I think while there are signs, many will not see them for what they are and abusers can hide the worst of it until they are locked in through marriage and joint ownership. Also, age could have played a role in her overlooking little things that add up to a big problem.
Naivety and pollyannaism could play a part in it. Co-dependency is another issue.
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And I think while there are signs, many will not see them for what they are and abusers can hide the worst of it until they are locked in through marriage and joint ownership. Also, age could have played a role in her overlooking little things that add up to a big problem.
Naivety and pollyannaism could play a part in it. Co-dependency is another issue.
The painted picture points to the friend being a victim. Now, I think we're getting into the area of who's more responsible, the abuser or the victim? I've never been one to place blame on the victim.
The painted picture points to the friend being a victim. Now, I think we're getting into the area of who's more responsible, the abuser or the victim? I've never been one to place blame on the victim.
My partner had not heard from the friend until last Saturday morning at 2:36AM with a text that read "Call me, so we can talk."
We had volunteer duties Saturday so my partner emailed her Sunday morning, telling her that emailing would be the best way to speak with my partner right now. It really upset my partner regarding the original incident and to then have zero communication from the friend until this text. My partner feels her friend should have called her if she wanted to talk and by texting and asking her to call is a cowardly way to reconnect.
I got a few Qwerty,
texting and asking for voice to voice isnt traceable .. Emails on a shared computer ARE.. the dear husband could have a keylogger /spytool installed on the wifes computer ..
Dunno but the husband sounds like a control type and the wife has already been beaten down emontianly .. I think a call is not out of line THIS TIME.. I would call and I would listen carefully .. altho now I wouldnt be suprised if the cell phone is suddenly broken or something .. your story gave me the willies and I think your friend is in some serious trouble but is to afraid to leave
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My partner had not heard from the friend until last Saturday morning at 2:36AM with a text that read "Call me, so we can talk."
the time she texted tells me she was either alone or felt she could do it and not get caught by him .. I would worry for her
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My partner had not heard from the friend until last Saturday morning at 2:36AM with a text that read "Call me, so we can talk."
We had volunteer duties Saturday so my partner emailed her Sunday morning, telling her that emailing would be the best way to speak with my partner right now. It really upset my partner regarding the original incident and to then have zero communication from the friend until this text. My partner feels her friend should have called her if she wanted to talk and by texting and asking her to call is a cowardly way to reconnect.
Any thoughts?
I still say that the husband is causing the problem.
If the friend is in a controlling relationship then more than likely he's checking the phone records or if it's a cell phone, her call history.
Give the friend the benefit of the doubt and e-mail her. She needs friends.
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