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"Femme"? So if I don't play silly little games to taunt a guy, I'm not feminine somehow? Nonsense. I'm quite feminine - ask any one that knows me.
I am just more of a realist. I don't consider cooking for someone, (which I do all the time by the way - I made my fella a pound cake a couple of weeks ago) to be something that "keeps him chasing me". I do it because I like pleasing him, I know he loves pound cake, and I am a great cook. Baking and cooking happens to be part of who I am. I work out religiously to stay fit, but that is for ME, not for someone else. I want someone that understands the effort and the results, and appreciates the fact that I don't do it for him, but for me.
If I was mad at someone, then I can see not answering the phone...but if this is someone I cared about, I can't imagine not doing so. I am however, very guarded about my feelings, and I'm very good at keeping them in check. So I have no worries about "fawning all over someone" and scaring them off. That simply isn't me. Is that more what you were asking?
"Femme"? So if I don't play silly little games to taunt a guy, I'm not feminine somehow? Nonsense. I'm quite feminine - ask any one that knows me.
I am just more of a realist. I don't consider cooking for someone, (which I do all the time by the way - I made my fella a pound cake a couple of weeks ago) to be something that "keeps him chasing me". I do it because I like pleasing him, I know he loves pound cake, and I am a great cook. Baking and cooking happens to be part of who I am. I work out religiously to stay fit, but that is for ME, not for someone else. I want someone that understands the effort and the results, and appreciates the fact that I don't do it for him, but for me.
If I was mad at someone, then I can see not answering the phone...but if this is someone I cared about, I can't imagine not doing so. I am however, very guarded about my feelings, and I'm very good at keeping them in check. So I have no worries about "fawning all over someone" and scaring them off. That simply isn't me. Is that more what you were asking?
Chessie,
If you are in a committed relationship, I think it's different. Do you want this guy to marry you though? Or are you happy to be there "on hold" for him? The years can pass by really quickly!
I agree whole heartedly that working out and staying in shape is a good way to hold on to someone. Men are visual creatures.
Hey Captain, I jest. Thought a silly question deserved a silly answer. I dont play those games. I dont want someone "chasing me". And holding out, come on, you know me better than that.
You are right sweetie. I misunderstood your reply. My Bad! I will put myself in timeout.
If you are in a committed relationship, I think it's different. Do you want this guy to marry you though? Or are you happy to be there "on hold" for him? The years can pass by really quickly!
Marriage is not on my plate at this time, and certainly not with this man. But, I don't believe I'd remove it from the menu either. The "years passing by" are not an issue. I divorced many years ago, and have been happily raising my son. I didn't date anyone for SEVEN years. I don't think making a man chase me is really part of my nature.
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Originally Posted by Woof Woof Woof!
I agree whole heartedly that working out and staying in shape is a good way to hold on to someone. Men are visual creatures.
No, that's exactly the opposite of what I said. I don't work out to "hold on" to anyone. Rather, any man of mine will understand the reason, and appreciate THAT fact about me.
As a woman if a man was chasing me so to speak I'd feel like we were both playing some kind of kids game like tag and you're it kind of thingy.It's obvious that he'd either be interested in me or he wouldn't. and laughing.
Marriage is not on my plate at this time, and certainly not with this man. But, I don't believe I'd remove it from the menu either. The "years passing by" are not an issue. I divorced many years ago, and have been happily raising my son. I didn't date anyone for SEVEN years. I don't think making a man chase me is really part of my nature.
Sounds like he is not the "right" one. Do you date other men? Why are you giving it all to this guy?
You say you are not concerned about the years passing by. You must be a young woman. There will be a time when you are not so young. It happens fast!
As a woman if a man was chasing me so to speak I'd feel like we were both playing some kind of kids game like tag and you're it kind of thingy.It's obvious that he'd either be interested in me or he wouldn't. and laughing.
Okay, so you would be happy to sleep with a man on the second date? Maybe even pick your nose and fart in front of him? Scratch your butt? Walk around in pajamas and slippers all day?
I do not consider maintaining a "mystery" about oneself playing games.
This is for Ladies, but men can respond as well. Just make sure you tell us whether you are male or female when you post.
Okay, Ladies, so say a man is after you. We know that men are instantly attracted to women, so without notice, you have one in pursuit. At first he looks like your average Joe, but after a few dates, you start to fall for him. He is paying for everything, taking you to swank dinners, and sending flowers. In short, he is treating you like a queen. Now the challenge is how to keep him interested.
What is your strategy? Let's discuss!
I don't play these kind of games, being Mr. super nice guy at first by treating her like a queen, I treat a woman with respect all the time, not just to make a good impression to make her fall for me.
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