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thank you all so much. and i do plan on staying out of it. i said what i had to and thats that. and of course im going to let her come live at home. and yes she will abide by same rules before she left.besides i will have a babysitter for the 12 year old when hubby and i (we've been happily married 21 years)want to go out.
I'm afraid she's past the "child" stage. A woman who's been living with a man (with two men) for 3 years, - you can't put her back into her pink bedroom with stuffed toys. She knows a thing or two about life. I am for relating to her as to any other adult. She insisted on being grown up, she has to learn how to keep being grown-up.
This kid needs lots of guidance at this point. There is no reason the rest of her life has to be f@cked up just because she was willful and stupid at 19.
Yes, make her be responsible, don't baby her - but help her to get to the proper resources she needs to get herself out of this situation and onto a better path. None of this "you made your bed now lie in it" crap - good grief.
This kid needs lots of guidance at this point. There is no reason the rest of her life has to be f@cked up just because she was willful and stupid at 19.
Yes, make her be responsible, don't baby her - but help her to get to the proper resources she needs to get herself out of this situation and onto a better path. None of this "you made your bed now lie in it" crap - good grief.
I would strongly urge this kid to get into college and get an education. It's a given that the marriage isn't long for this world. She needs to learn that she can be on her own - truly on her own - not living with some man in his home. She's made some mistakes, but she's still young enough to turn it around.
The husband sounds like a serious chump, but at least he finally stood up to her and tossed her ass out. Pittsburgh hit the nail on the head saying that she did an adult thing and now it's time to act like an adult.
I hate to say it but this one is probably destined to fail. All you can do is try to control the fire.
I would strongly urge this kid to get into college and get an education. It's a given that the marriage isn't long for this world. She needs to learn that she can be on her own - truly on her own - not living with some man in his home. She's made some mistakes, but she's still young enough to turn it around.
she does attend college at night and also works during the day. she wants to be a teacher. so its not like she is out partying all the time. and she does'nt even drink. it was one night she was at a house party and drank a little too much and did not want to drive. she has always been a good kid. never drank or smoked so i think he is being a little controlling. she is the type of kid who needs to be doing something all the time. they used to do sports together all the time,tennis,softball.vollyball. but i guess they are too busy anymore. it was one night she wanted to hang with her friends. he feels like she is still acting like a teenager. hello!!!she's 19. i said from the very begining she was not ready.
she does attend college at night and also works during the day. she wants to be a teacher. so its not like she is out partying all the time. and she does'nt even drink. it was one night she was at a house party and drank a little too much and did not want to drive. she has always been a good kid. never drank or smoked so i think he is being a little controlling. she is the type of kid who needs to be doing something all the time. they used to do sports together all the time,tennis,softball.vollyball. but i guess they are too busy anymore. it was one night she wanted to hang with her friends. he feels like she is still acting like a teenager. hello!!!she's 19. i said from the very begining she was not ready.
He's probably controlling because she's already left him once for another man. That sure as hell didn't inspire confidence, believe me.
Too young to be married. Let her work it out. It's her bed, she made it.
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