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First, a little history. My husband works with a female who is married to another employee at the same plant. My husband told me ( a few years ago) that the female employee was big, fat and ugly and they dont work together they just work in the same deptartment.
Well we went to the company picnic and I met her, when she kept calling him by his first name I asked who that was .He said that was ( so and so) I was shocked. I said "oh big, fat, ugly so and so ????? He laughed and said ...welllll? She is skinny and petite with a huge rack.
On the way home from the picnic my husband filled me in on her history, how many kids she has how many times she's been married and even knew how long she has been married to her current husband.
He kept telling me all about her and I said thats enough, you shouldn't even know all those details.
Then I found out that they have been partners for over a year, they ride the same cart together all day responding to breakdowns in the plant.Holding ladders for each to climb up, etc.
My son started working at the plant a month ago and he told me that my husband and his (partner) stop by his area to chat with him and that his (partner) often pats my husband on the shoulder.
To get his attention or when they are joking.
I have NEVER touched another coworker male or female for any reason and I think this is crossing the line. My hubby says she does it to everyone and that it is no big deal. He doesn't think it is inappropriate and won't tell her to stop. He doesn't want to start anything at work.
If its not inappropriate why all the lies?
I told him to give her a message. Stop touching me or my wife is going to break your Moderator cut: Language arm!!!!!
What is your opinion?
Last edited by bmwguydc; 08-24-2009 at 09:19 PM..
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Well, women tend to touch men they like. There are some who just do it without any special meaning behind it... It sounds like blue-collar environment. I would think it's more common there. I wouldn't really worry about that. What I find disturbing, though, is your husband lying to you about what she looks like and the fact they work together.
He may not have told you the truth as he figured you would have flipped if you knew what she really looked like. But be honest, is it the way she looks or the fact that she's giving your husband so much attention that's bothering you?
The fact that they seem to have a connection. As in telling each other all their life details. My husband has not remembered my birthday in a couple of years and he can tell me how long she has been married.
So putting this together with your other thread that you two haven't been intimate to the point of you being driven up the wall, - ..... maybe you've found your answer?
If you are "taking care of business" at home with your husband then he will not have the desire (or energy) to even think about fooling around with a co-worker.
It doesn't matter how inappropriate another woman is, if your husband is having his needs met at home, he will have no reason to stray.
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Originally Posted by asitshouldbe
First, a little history. My husband works with a female who is married to another employee at the same plant. My husband told me ( a few years ago) that the female employee was big, fat and ugly and they dont work together they just work in the same deptartment.
Well we went to the company picnic and I met her, when she kept calling him by his first name I asked who that was .He said that was ( so and so) I was shocked. I said "oh big, fat, ugly so and so ????? He laughed and said ...welllll? She is skinny and petite with a huge rack.
On the way home from the picnic my husband filled me in on her history, how many kids she has how many times she's been married and even knew how long she has been married to her current husband.
He kept telling me all about her and I said thats enough, you shouldn't even know all those details.
Then I found out that they have been partners for over a year, they ride the same cart together all day responding to breakdowns in the plant.Holding ladders for each to climb up, etc.
My son started working at the plant a month ago and he told me that my husband and his (partner) stop by his area to chat with him and that his (partner) often pats my husband on the shoulder.
To get his attention or when they are joking.
I have NEVER touched another coworker male or female for any reason and I think this is crossing the line. My hubby says she does it to everyone and that it is no big deal. He doesn't think it is inappropriate and won't tell her to stop. He doesn't want to start anything at work.
If its not inappropriate why all the lies?
I told him to give her a message. Stop touching me or my wife is going to break your Moderator cut: Language arm!!!!!
What is your opinion?
Last edited by bmwguydc; 08-24-2009 at 09:21 PM..
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Well, women tend to touch men they like. There are some who just do it without any special meaning behind it... It sounds like blue-collar environment. I would think it's more common there. I wouldn't really worry about that. What I find disturbing, though, is your husband lying to you about what she looks like and the fact they work together.
The fact that they seem to have a connection. As in telling each other all their life details. My husband has not remembered my birthday in a couple of years and he can tell me how long she has been married.
Spending a lot of time with a work husband/wife can be messy... even if no infidelity per se has happened... Sharing too much and trusting the other's opinions too much can be detrimental.
If you are "taking care of business" at home with your husband then he will not have the desire (or energy) to even think about fooling around with a co-worker.
It doesn't matter how inappropriate another woman is, if your husband is having his needs met at home, he will have no reason to stray.
NOT true. Some people don't need a reason to stray.
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