Ever Been Attracted To Someone You Normally Wouldn't Be? (dating, boyfriend, married)
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that is what I am telling you you were not impressed about her looks or music but her inner beauty impressed you whether it was for buisness or not
Right, I get that. But I meet many people, male and female, whom I believe have beautiful personalities. But I don't think about them for hours after we meet like I did this woman.
I don't have a type, historically if you look at guys I've dated including my current beau, no one looks the same. I have favorite features though like, green / hazel eyes, more built / or better than average (not super skinny though), usually dark hair but my b/f has a little lighter hair (not blonde). I guess I do usually stray off onto another path when it comes to who I'm attracted to. I typically find something whether it be looks or personality-related that is attractive to me.
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Yes, I have, in the past. But only b'c, like most people, I place limitations on myself--expectations that shouldn't exist. All they do is reduce your vision and raise the number of good people you're missing out on. For that reason I've dated various 'types' and don't go by looks.
Has this sort of thing ever happened to you where you met or saw someone who, on paper, you would never find attractive, but in person, you did?
Yes. A couple years ago at a Grammy dinner party Carole Bayer-Sager and Sharon Osborn were both at the table next to me and I would just taken aback at how absolutely beautiful they both looked. I mean hypnotizingly beautiful. I actually see Sharon every now and then at the local shopping center and she is really a pretty pretty woman for her age.
Yes. A couple years ago at a Grammy dinner party Carole Bayer-Sager and Sharon Osborn were both at the table next to me and I would just taken aback at how absolutely beautiful they both looked. I mean hypnotizingly beautiful. I actually see Sharon every now and then at the local shopping center and she is really a pretty pretty woman for her age.
i would say being attracted to someone we normally aren't attracted to is a sign of maturity and would offer all kinds of wonderful growth and self-development, if we allow ourselves to follow it and see where it takes us. It asks us to not only see where an intution takes us, but also to step outside our known ways of doing things (also known as "getting over ourselves" and "getting out of a rut")
whether this particular person ends up being a date or even someone you get to know it all, is not the point, what is important is what you find out about yourself in the process. it absolutely bears exploring
i would say being attracted to someone we normally aren't attracted to is a sign of maturity and would offer all kinds of wonderful growth and self-development, if we allow ourselves to follow it and see where it takes us. It asks us to not only see where an intution takes us, but also to step outside our known ways of doing things (also known as "getting over ourselves" and "getting out of a rut")
whether this particular person ends up being a date or even someone you get to know it all, is not the point, what is important is what you find out about yourself in the process. it absolutely bears exploring
Well said. I give you major rep points for this comment. And you're right. It does mean you've to grown as a person. When I was younger, I told myself I could never be attracted to someone who had kids, that just knowing she had kids would be an instant turn-off. But then I found out I was wrong. Many people experience this when it comes to things like race, weight, height, even political views. It can be a great wake-up call. Questioning your own beliefs every now and then is healthy.
I don't have a type, historically if you look at guys I've dated including my current beau, no one looks the same. I have favorite features though like, green / hazel eyes, more built / or better than average (not super skinny though), usually dark hair but my b/f has a little lighter hair (not blonde). I guess I do usually stray off onto another path when it comes to who I'm attracted to. I typically find something whether it be looks or personality-related that is attractive to me.
I can pretty much echo that. Not one of my exes are anything like each other. I can say I have a type that I am attracted to physically, but that doesn't mean I will be attracted to "the person" inside that "hot" body.
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