Are you comfortable with Silence? (dating, girl, single, kids)
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Girlfriend has made a statement that she doesn't understand how we could be in the car and hardly say anything to each other. Now, mind you, We are 20 minutes into a 45 minute ride, on a Saturday morning. I have the iPod playing. I will admit, I'm a big thinker when I'm driving. So, as I snap out of my thinking streak, I notice my girlfriend staring out the window. I ask her what she's thinking. She tells me she's thinking about ourlack of talking during the car ride, and car rides in general.
I don't understand this one....if you want to talk, TALK. I'm comfortable in the silence, and will slip into my thinking spells, here an there. But it bothers her. The funny thing if I am paying attention to what she's doing, and in a lot of cases she's texting her girlfriends, in her pocketbook, etc. Doing everything but talking.
Then after we discuss it, she admits that sometimes she doesn't want to say anything, or even have anything to say (We are both introverted), but she was concerned.
I don't mind talking in some respects, but I'm usually engaging to the extent that the other person is. I'm not the type that will just talk to pass time LOL.
I don't get it.
Are there other couples who have noticed this? Not that it's a problem, but I'm sure there are some introverted couples, where there is little to no talking, because there's nothing to say.
Help me out.
I'm the same way. I don't think we have to be talking all the time to get along. It's not necessarily a sign that something is wrong. Sounds like there may be some maturity and/or security issues with her.
He was obviously somebody uncomfortable with silences, so he would try to fill the gaps with utterly pointless questions. You know, I don't mind a couple of questions like that as conversation starters, and I like to talk on a broad range of topics. But after being peppered with 60 questions within an hour about topics ranging from television to art to history to whatever other random thought crosses that person's mind, I always had this impulse to ram my car into a phone pole, just to get him to shut the hell up.
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Originally Posted by IZthe411
Girlfriend has made a statement that she doesn't understand how we could be in the car and hardly say anything to each other. Now, mind you, We are 20 minutes into a 45 minute ride, on a Saturday morning. I have the iPod playing. I will admit, I'm a big thinker when I'm driving. So, as I snap out of my thinking streak, I notice my girlfriend staring out the window. I ask her what she's thinking. She tells me she's thinking about ourlack of talking during the car ride, and car rides in general.
I don't understand this one....if you want to talk, TALK. I'm comfortable in the silence, and will slip into my thinking spells, here an there. But it bothers her. The funny thing if I am paying attention to what she's doing, and in a lot of cases she's texting her girlfriends, in her pocketbook, etc. Doing everything but talking.
Then after we discuss it, she admits that sometimes she doesn't want to say anything, or even have anything to say (We are both introverted), but she was concerned.
I don't mind talking in some respects, but I'm usually engaging to the extent that the other person is. I'm not the type that will just talk to pass time LOL.
I don't get it.
Are there other couples who have noticed this? Not that it's a problem, but I'm sure there are some introverted couples, where there is little to no talking, because there's nothing to say.
Help me out.
I could have written this. I can't stand it when someone feels every second has to be filled with talking. I like silence. I'm comfortable with it. I'm comfortable with my thoughts and myself and with other people enough to not have to speak all the time. Sometimes I just like to enjoy being in their company, nothing more.
Generally, I have no problems with silence. I spend my working life constantly talking with people, so having some quiet time outside of work is not a problem for me.
If, however, there are things that need to be said and there's silence, then I find it extremely awkward and will do my best to try to break it.
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