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Man you guys are teaching me a lot here. Take the OWE out of the equation please, i feel my husband owe's me nothing and i owe him nothing. It is a mutual understanding that he want to make me feel good and the same for myself with him. My husband actually gets more stimulated by watching me climax yes make fun at me, some already have, i'm a multi orgasam women, i am not normal. Yes i hate being like this. So i hate the word owe. Interesting in heariing just how men think about these things.
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..I think you may have been trying to to say "some" men...because i, among others here, certainly don't think like this..and just that word "owe"...nope, i don't owe my girl anything..except maybe a couple bucks..and my shoulder when she needs it..
...And that also goes for my girl..she owes me nothing...We both enjoy pleasing one another..and yes, even laughing at one another..but, we do not have sex thinking that we owe one another something..We both desire to enjoy one another..
And as for what you might feel is abnormal...As long as your husband is happy with it..you are fine..Don't worry what outsiders think..
I myself would welcome this..unless it was a situation like a thread posted here awhile back about a woman who had 10's of them in a day...then that might be something id be concerned about...not the fact that my girl has some stamina...Id hope she would!!! lol...
I have always thought of it like that line "sex is like a chinese dinner....it ain't over till you both get your cookies" If he gets his I should get mine, I am capable of taking care of myself but it's just not the same. *sigh*
Orgasms aren't the be all end all. Sex can be great with or without one. Plus, if a woman doesn't come, its not the guy's fault or like he didn't fufill an obligation. We women are complicated creatures and orgasms begin with our brains. If we are stressed or have a lot of our mind or feel uncomfortable with our bodies etc. we usually can't orgasm. What I would say is that men and women in relationships should want to give each other pleasure. It shouldn't be something owed or an obligation. It should be great to give and recieve pleasure.
Plus, if a woman doesn't come, its not the guy's fault or like he didn't fufill an obligation. We women are complicated creatures and orgasms begin with our brains. If we are stressed or have a lot of our mind or feel uncomfortable with our bodies etc. we usually can't orgasm.
I wholeheartedly agree. It's important for a man to want his partner to enjoy herself, but it's also important for him and the woman to understand it isn't always going to end in an orgasm (for her). That doesn't mean he shouldn't put in the effort, or that anyone should be judging his talent in bed simply on whether he can make his partner orgasm. Orgasms alone do not equal good sex, at least not in my opinion.
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